To want to delay holiday

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My DH has covid. Symptomatic and in contact with someone with it so tested as works in health in close contact with often vulnerable people. Coughing and chills but up and about, not bed ridden.

DC and I are negative testing at the moment. I have heard this variant is mild.

Holiday tonight. Driving and shared hotel rooms for 3 days/nights and then a week in a cottage with separate rooms so don’t have to share a bedroom anymore. No shared transport or accommodation with anyone else so just us as a family breathing in germs.

I am perimenopausal, having problems with digestion and kidneys. I get hit hard by anything going around and struggle to shake it off.

If we go, chances are DC and I will get it. Even if it’s mild, I am not keen on being miles from home and feeling really ill. He will try and look after me but he’s scatty and will forget basics - like if he says he will bring me water he will forget for an hour or more.

But, we haven’t had a holiday since 2019, we are desperate and have been so looking forward to it. DC super excited. Old enough to manage if we are poorly - can fix own food etc.

We might not get it and he might recover quickly of course. No predicting that.

I am tempted to delay and shorten the holiday. Stay at home with him in the other bedroom until he’s negative. I think insurance should cover it. But DC would be sooo sad. Or do I risk it and suck it up if I do get it? I’m not one of these robust people that bounce back quickly from colds. They can linger. But also I’m really excited about going away. So genuinely torn.

I know it’s not really AIBU but DH is gung ho and ready to go. Doesn’t want to cancel and has vaguely waved away my concerns so it’s hard to talk it through with him. Curious to hear perspectives.

Could you and the kids go and then him join you once he’s better? May not be feasible, but worth considering if it’s an option.

I'd go first with the kids and get DH to join you when he's testing negative

I would just go.

If you're going to get it, you'll get it - hiding away from DH won't make any difference if you've been sharing a house/bed etc. with him for weeks now.

It's going to be a shit holiday for you. Can you stay home and let them go?

Just go, you've already been in contact with him, you can't change that.,

Or leave him behind to catch you up

Are you sure insurance will cover it? I imagine they only will if a doctor says he is unfit to travel and that doesn’t sound like the case to me.

Honestly I would just go. You've already spent time together and he's feeling ok so I suspect insurance won't actually cover you.

I'd just go.

Thank you all. A mixed bag then. Which is helpful really as it validates my in two minds state.

Go together and risk it, I stay home or DH stays home and joins us later. And insurance may not cover it.

I don’t think we can travel separately without huge extra costs. Could afford an extra hotel room for the first three nights to minimise contact and he could wear a mask in the car.

I would be gutted to stay home while they go. I’ve had a shit year and was really looking forward to it. But I guess that is an option. But seems extreme for a ‘May be’ scenario.

Hadn’t considered insurance might not cover it. Bugger.

Two ‘just go’ posts. Thank you. I felt glad about that which tells me that’s what I want to do. I’m just wondering if it’s sensible.

I'd go and get DH to fly there & meet you in 3 days time

Insurance isn't going to cover you if he's well enough to travel.

I don't see what benefit there would be in anyone staying home for potentially no reason? Just go - if you feel genuinely horrendous you can always come home early?

I don’t think we can travel separately without huge extra costs. Could afford an extra hotel room for the first three nights to minimise contact and he could wear a mask in the car

just drive there with the kids. he can join when he feels better. He can hop on a train or so.

I did wonder about this but with parking, flight and car hire it is just too expensive.

What would be the point?

They live together so OP and her DS have already been exposed - if they're going to get it, they'll get it - making DH stay home for three random days isn't going to change that?

Op you should all go. I'm not sure I understand pp who say your husband should stay at home when he's the one who really wants to go! The covid rules as they are now don't prevent travel although I understand not wanting to be unwell whilst away. Enjoy your holiday.

I don't think insurance would cover someone who is up and about not going on holiday with COVID any more than they would if you had a cold now that the COVID stance has changed.

Sounds like a selfish option to me Get him to fly so you don't get any germs and risk spreading it to a plane full of unsuspecting people!

I doubt he’d agree to that. And I think it would be prohibitively expensive.

I cancelled my holiday a couple of weeks ago due to Covid. I would argue this strain is NOT mild. I was ill for a week and still not 100% 2-3 weeks on. I kept so far away from my family member who had it first, and high is what we do whenever anyone gets Covid, and for the first time it got all of us.

Sorry, not helpful I'm sure but this was my experience. I would postpone it.

Yeah. I guess the exposure has happened. Stable door and horse etc.

I’ve just had Covid. Felt crap for about 3/4 days. But not a single other person in my household got it - including DH who was sharing my bed, and three children.

I would say just go. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

I hope you stay covid clear and have much deserved lovely holiday

then go with the kids. You have booked. what's the point of staying behind esp if he isn't well? I don't see the issue at all 🤷

Shit. Sorry to hear that. I’ve heard this variant spreads very easily. Sorry it wasn’t mild for you. This is my fear. I’d then spend a week feeling ill stuck in a car or hotel room. The cottage would be ok. But then we are back in the car touring around again for a week.