To want to delay holiday

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My DH has covid. Symptomatic and in contact with someone with it so tested as works in health in close contact with often vulnerable people. Coughing and chills but up and about, not bed ridden.

DC and I are negative testing at the moment. I have heard this variant is mild.

Holiday tonight. Driving and shared hotel rooms for 3 days/nights and then a week in a cottage with separate rooms so don’t have to share a bedroom anymore. No shared transport or accommodation with anyone else so just us as a family breathing in germs.

I am perimenopausal, having problems with digestion and kidneys. I get hit hard by anything going around and struggle to shake it off.

If we go, chances are DC and I will get it. Even if it’s mild, I am not keen on being miles from home and feeling really ill. He will try and look after me but he’s scatty and will forget basics - like if he says he will bring me water he will forget for an hour or more.

But, we haven’t had a holiday since 2019, we are desperate and have been so looking forward to it. DC super excited. Old enough to manage if we are poorly - can fix own food etc.

We might not get it and he might recover quickly of course. No predicting that.

I am tempted to delay and shorten the holiday. Stay at home with him in the other bedroom until he’s negative. I think insurance should cover it. But DC would be sooo sad. Or do I risk it and suck it up if I do get it? I’m not one of these robust people that bounce back quickly from colds. They can linger. But also I’m really excited about going away. So genuinely torn.

I know it’s not really AIBU but DH is gung ho and ready to go. Doesn’t want to cancel and has vaguely waved away my concerns so it’s hard to talk it through with him. Curious to hear perspectives.

I think you should go, you prob won't even get it. My young daughter had it recently and I caught it from her but my partner or other daughter didn't. I felt fairly rough for about 2 days in terms of symptoms and then was just tiredness/grogginess after.

I would go. If you get I’ll then come home early. I can’t be bothered with a life of “ifs” these days.

I'd go but ask him to wear a mask in the car and keep the windows open.

I had covid three months ago and it was my worst bout yet. Absolutely awful. It would have been unbearable dealing with it away from home.

Get some boots dual
defence spray and use three times a day!

Why on earth would you bother?

They live together so will have already been exposed!

Definitely book another room. Last time my husband had Covid I slept in another room and didn’t get it.

Could you all just go straight to the cottage? That way he's not spreading his virus with other people in the hotel. I wouldn't want someone going in the lift with me or in the dining room at breakfast having a coughing fit and sniffling. I don't want a cold, flu etc.

Just go! You might catch something else next week 🤷‍♀️

Somebody would have to have died for us not to miss our planned and paid for annual holiday. Your husband has Covid and wants to still go get gone!

I had Covid last week. Not fun but wasn’t bedridden either. Partner and daughter both didn’t catch it!

Get some first defence and snort it whenever you can. It does seem to work.

Go and get a different hotel room for DH if you are nervous (I would). During the drive, could he wear a mask to help not spread his germs? Could you and DS wear one? You've already been exposed, but it couldn't hurt since the car is a small area. Also don't turn on your car's "recirculate air", if your car has that feature. Let it stay fresh air if a/c is on or keep windows cracked or do both.

If you are at the hotel, he could not go to the dining room for breakfast if it's offered and your or DS could bring him what he'd like.

I just would not miss out on a vacation for, what looks like a mild case of Covid.
I hope you all have a great time and your DH feels better very soon.

It’s not completely pointless unless you are a totally selfish arse. You can still act with others in mind if you know you have it, by avoiding very busy and crowded places, especially inside and wearing a mask if you must go out in public. It’s not a mild illness for a lot of people and actually this latest strain which is currently rampant is a bastard and seems to be making many people ill for 2-3 weeks.

I posted to get an indication of what others would do and whether I was just being OTT. I got a range of replies which has helped to know that it’s not clear cut, and different people would do different things. It’s helped to think about things I hadn’t thought of and to think it through. It’s the thing I love about MN.

I am not catastrophizing, I’m thinking through various possible scenarios. Working out the chances of things going wrong and it being miserable and a massive waste of money right through to it barely registering.

You seem annoyed that your advice hasn’t just been accepted. I’m grateful for it, but then figured it wouldn’t work for us.

What a wankerish comment. Why does anyone post? For advice. If we listened to you mumsnet wouldn’t exist.

Yep. First time to WDW, about day 3, I found myself feeling lie I had to pee every 2 minutes. I also had lower back pain. Sent the family off to watch fireworks and snuck to the UCC via taxi. Doctor wanted me in the hospital on an IV because he said it was a kidney infection. I couldn't go into the hospital (not missing my holiday), so he gave me 4 different meds and I got home about 10 minutes before the family. I pretended to be asleep, but my ultra-aware DD asked her Dad where I got the medicine and the gig was up.

Nineteen years later, going with DH and my DDG to WDW! At Christmas time! A one-in-a-lifetime trip and staying on site, so we can see all the Christmas decorations every day. Her Mom meets us down there on day 3. My throat started hurting on Day 2. Day 4, too sick to go anywhere, went to the UCC, this time with DH, and it was strep. Got more medicine and went back to hotel. Missed day 5 too but did manage to get the last two days in.

Would love to go back, and they do say "the third times the charm". I don't want to risk it though, as I am not sure which way this "charm" could work out. Perfect trip or last trip?

Try replacing your battery or get a new plug cord and maybe you'll start ticking normally again. ⏱🔋🔌