I've got 3 kids and while I'm generally slim all over, I do have a little pot belly and I'm also on my period.
I was sitting down and my 9 year old said 'when you sit down you look pregnant!'. Now, as a teenager, my parents (dad in particular) commented on my weight all the time. My son has made comments about my weight in the past, and I spoke to him about never commenting on anyone's appearance. Neither me nor my husband ever discuss anyone's appearance either to them or behind their back and for me it's just a no-no.
My son said it as I was just sitting having a cup of tea and I said 'oh right, thanks'. He said he didn't mean anything by it and I felt like I'd gone back in time to my dad telling me I need to lose weight. I remember the feeling of just living, just existing in my home watching TV or reading a book and having some kind of comment directed at me. I left the room and then asked my son for a word.
I calmly told him that it's unkind to comment on anyone's body, that 3 pregnancies have left me with a bit of a tummy but it hurt my feelings. My son started to cry and said sorry. We hugged it out and it was over in about 2 minutes but did I over react?
I don't know if it's just a sore spot for me or if anyone else would have just laughed it off? I didn't think it was funny but I don't think my son meant to be mean. Should I have just ignored it or have I actually created an issue of projecting my issues onto him? I don't want to be hyper sensitive mother who requires everyone to tip toe around her, either.
So, wibu to speak to him about it? Commenting on people's weight was so normal in my house that I really don't know.