AIBU to think that people that scoop are greedy

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Scooping up all the dip and leaving fuck all for anyone else?

I'm a dipper, I don't like too much dip on whatever I'm dipping.

I went to a bit of a party yesterday with several dips (among other things), hummous, tzatziki, salsa, cheese dip etc with crisps, breadsticks, tortilla chips and the like.

What I noticed was people, men taking great scoops of dip and eating it all in next to no time, leaving none for anyone else.

I tried to take some hummous and put it on a plate but a few of them finished off tubs in what seemed like a few bites 😡Like locusts 🙄They weren't drunk either, food was served fairly on.

AIBU to think you don't do this when sharing a buffet/meal with other people? Fortunately, there was no double dipping going on!

Agree 100%, OP. I hate greedy guzzlers at buffets. I think, on the whole, people need to remember that when they're at a fancy 'event' meal, they're not going to starve - you eat 'socially', rather than stuff yourself as if you're not going to eat for a week, don't you? And you're there to socialise - to converse with other people, so loading your plate and stuffing your mouth just don't work with that. The Queen was famous for pushing a bit of food around her plate all evening because she prioritised good manners. That might be a bit extreme, but there is a happy medium!

A catering manager once told me some fascinating stuff about the 'psychology of buffets'. He explained that, when people see plates of say, sliced cold meats, greed takes over and instead of thinking 'well, there are about 50 people here, so that's about a slice each of the ham and beef...; they just pile it onto their plates with no thought for those behind. Horrible behaviour. My late MIL had a phrase; 'making beasts of themselves', and I think she had a point.

The caterer said that you have to feed the food in in stages, or those at the last tables to be called get nothing but half a tomato and a piece of cucumber. Even doing this didn't always prevent the last people from getting a raw deal.

I have to say, I love my food, but this kind of greedy boorishness utterly disgusts me. Piggies at the trough is what comes to mind!

Hangerslip · Today 10:09
Well, yes, the pots contain 2/4 servings?

Presumably they didn't put out one bag of crisps and expect it to serve 20 people?

Maybe if the houmus etc is the actual meal (with pitta or salad), but not if it's part of a buffet!! Surely a smallish spoonful is more the portion you'd take at a buffet?

And why have these culprits never eaten all day, when the buffet is in the late afternoon/evening? “Starving, haven’t eaten all day is always usually the line!

Personally I don't like buffet food, especially when shared with a load of strangers, and dips in particular are the devil's work. Someone (usually a bloke) is bound to double dip and if there are kids around they're bound to stick their fingers in it. Then there's always the detritus of left over crumbs mixed in them. Fucking horrible.

Oh and the worst ones are the people that pile plates high, then leave half of it, so nobody else can then have it either.

JustAstateOfmind · Today 11:18
And why have these culprits never eaten all day, when the buffet is in the late afternoon/evening? “Starving, haven’t eaten all day is always usually the line!

Yes - this is exactly what I was trying to say. An invitation to a special meal is primarily social, not nutritional. You're there to be sociable, not stock up on calories for the next few days. I've been to things where I've barely eaten anything because I've been busy chatting to other guests. It wasn't a problem for me - I didn't starve!

😂

These are the important matters of State.

You're right OP, there is an etiquette and people should pay more attention. It's the one dish at a party I zone in on. Are there enough dips? What chips go with the dips? Do they match adequately? Is there a nice guacamole/tzatziki/salsa available if all I can see is tapenade (don't like olives) all before we get to how people conduct themselves around said dips. Can make or break a party for me.

I always expect to pick up a double cheeseburger from McD's on the way home, so as to not eat too much from the buffet or not talk to people because I'm eating instead.

I think thats just manners. You don't eat all the food and you don't eat while talking.

wouldnt bother me, I wouldn’t be eating it, hate buffets and others germs on stuff.

I think dips are gross when there are lots of people dipping

At my friend's wedding the father of the groom actually took to the microphone to call back the group of young men guests who had rushed to the buffet when the hotel going went and staff announced it was open. He was furious and told them to sit down until the wedding party and more elderly guests had their turn. It was incredibly awkward and spoiled the atmosphere somewhat (which was already icy due to other family tensions) but in some ways I had to admire him.

This is the way!

Than why comment on a thread about buffets? 🙄

Award for the most pointless post of the day 🥇🤣

If you invite people and offer food, they're expecting to be fed. Not push a chickpea round a plate. Although if you do it often enough you'll develop a reputation and people will know to eat first before arriving.

And I will admit to being a bit of a plate-filler at a buffet if it's scheduled at a normal meal time. As someone with a medical dietary requirement I can't usually go back for seconds after the double-dippers, spoon-swappers, and crumb-dribblers have descended.

He was rude. There's no point everyone holding back, someone has to go first. As host, he should have been sure that there'd be plenty for everyone and that anyone who needed help had it.

Double dipping.🤢 People dip with a bread stick.. eat half the bread stick.. dip again after having it in their mouth..🤢
If we are sharing we put dip onto our plates and only dip our own..like the dips you get with poppadoms etc.

The real problem is under catering. Yes, people should be mindful of portions, but dips are meant to be scooped. What is the point of having a dip if everyone is supposed to just barely touch it to your carrot or your bread?

No they aren't, it's a dip. The clue is in the name.

Are you one of the greedy buffet CFs?

This! Anybody who has dips at a shared event either hates their guests or is an animal. 🤢

Too grim for me.

Undercatering is the real crime here, in both provision of dips and utensils. Not enough of either.

Appalled at the Christmas dinner story though! I would have had to demand a Yorkshire and some roasties from someone's plate!

The only right answer is to buy your own dip on the way home from the party and gorge indulge in the privacy of your own home. I love a dip and will think nothing of eating a whole pot and breadsticks in one sitting. Maybe the dippers are your party are similarly afflicted. Should be set up a DA (Dippers anonymous) support group?

I know a couple who are, shall we say, "mature in age" who have decided not to have funerals because they are disgusted when going to friends and family funerals with the number of people who pile their plate and make comments like "oh I won't have to make any tea tonight" . They swear they've seen one acquaintance at funerals of people he doesn't even know just for the food!

It's a buffet dip though.

Are you one of the annoying people that stands blocking others from the buffet table, because you're stood there dipping your food and eating it?

Much more sensible to scoop a bit onto your plate, and go and sit down.