Is this a meal?

[Nothingeverything]

I cook 90% of the time. Today dh was in charge of Sunday lunch. He bought a roast chicken and put it on a plate. He thinks I'm ungrateful because I am pissed off. I always serve vegetables, salad, potatoes or fresh baguettes, never just one item. On Sundays, I usually make a dessert. I'm pissed off because he only "cooks" once a week and does the bare minimum. I want him to cook more but it's always so half-arsed. Aibu?

Was it a chicken sandwich @Nothingeverything ?

@Ellie56 No!!! It wasn't a mumsnet chicken - there was none left!

Then that's what he gets. Just cater for you and the teenagers.

OP, why won't you tell us how this all happened and what your and your kids' reactions to it was? I genuinely cannot conceive how this might play out, what was said and how it all fits together.

You seem to be shrugging this off like it's just some humourous "useless husband" narrative, but I think it's either a) utterly incompetent, to the level that I'd be worried about his mental capacity or mental health, or b) hugely disrespectful, mean and thoughtless, to you and your kids. What was he thinking? How are you dealing with it?

There's nothing to tell. He served up chicken. I got cross. I posted on mumsnet. Yes, I was pissed off. Not sure what else you want me to say? Dh is not British and it's really hot today so I didn't expect him to put the oven on but those are the only excuses!

There's nothing to tell. He served up chicken. I got cross.

But what did all your teenagers say? Did nobody say a word to him about it!!?

My next question is - was the chicken big enough or have you all spent the afternoon eating toast?

This is a favourite family lunch after a busy morning- a bagged salad, french stick and a rotisserie chicken.

A chicken on its own isn't.

Do you think he's checked out and contemptuous, doesn't care what you and tThe kids do and is just making a point of doing the bare minimum-

Or does he have executive functioning issues, or an eating disorder? What does he eat when you cook?

So did anyone get up and add things to chicken or did you all sit there just eating chicken?

Is he normally a knob?? What a lazy prick. I would take taken the kids straight out and got lunch somewhere and left him home. He's doing this just so you say don't worry anymore and you cook every single day.

Do you think he loves you? Because I bet he doesn’t

Well, what did your kids say? Do they think this is normal? What did you eat with the chicken? Who prepared it? What happened when you got cross? Was your husband apologetic? Is he aware he's done something wrong? Will he do it again? What will happen next weekend?

"There's nothing to tell" suggests this is all over with and he got away with it. I don't think he should get away with it. As I've said, it's disrespectful to you and a terrible example to your kids

(Are you in the UK? (It's not been very hot where I am!) "Sunday lunch" has a particular meaning here that it doesn't have everywhere.)

Lunch - over & done.

How about he cooks Sunday dinner now?

He has done it on purpose so you don't ask him to cook again. I'd stop cooking for him, or just give him chicken tomorrow and you and the kids have a full meal.

Doesn't sound like he cares that much about you or your children op.

I would never cook him a single thing again.

You didn't make him a sandwich did you?

@MasterBeth No, not in the UK. It's very hot so nobody wanted a hot meal but he's very averse to actually prepping stuff. Always the bare minimum. When I prepare salads, he loves them but he'd rather go without than actually do it. That's what is frustrating.

And what about my other questions?

I worry that your husband doesn't respect you and your children are scared of him when you won't say what happened.

@MasterBeth Erm...OK...you seem to have a very overactive imagination.

I’d go one further and call it malicious incompetence.

Follow his example; bowl of potatoes tomorrow, dish of broccoli the day after etc. Clearly he likes meals with just 1 component.

Unless there is something going on with your husbands mental health he really is an absolute fool for doing this.

Glad to hear it.

So, what did your kids say? Do they think it's normal? What did they eat? Who prepared it?

I did all the cooking. If I asked h to do it he bought takeaway. Pissed me off big time.

@MasterBeth They didn't say anything much - they are used to his meals being crap. They ate the chicken.