To be annoyed they didn't bring a bday present

[zebrasarecool]

For dd10's bday she had a sleepover, i took her and 2 friends to a very pricey event and then we had dinner & the sleepover.

One of the friends parents are close with dh, they turned up with no present. Or even card, or even acknowledgement of the lack of one.

Bearing in mind it was only 3 girls all in all it was glaringly obvious.

This tbh is very typical of these parents. They never pay for their child on playdates or ever return the playdate favour.

Dd isnt at all bratty and didnt even say anything about the lack of present, it was just more me feeling sorry for her as she could only invite 2 friends.

Bottom line (imo) is they're only kids, you expect a birthday present, and it's just really bad manners!!

These parents could absolutely afford a present so it feels very much like a choice.

Aibu to be annoyed by this?

It’s ungenerous of the parents, to be sure, but if the children are genuinely friends, I wouldn't cut ties. You say you took the children to a pricey event and for dinner — maybe confine yourselves to cheap/free activities in future?

My dd had a friend with parents like this in primary school. I held almost exactly the same sort of party as you one year, an expensive outing with a sleepover afterwards, they didn't send a card or anything. I thought it was extremely rude and after this I didn't invite their dd to any more parties. My dd had always taken a present/card to parties for this child and they could have afforded to reciprocate, they just chose we not to. Imo it's really ignorant as even a cheap 20p card would have made all the difference to acknowledge her birthday