I just want to weep

[YabaJaba]

Had torrential rain here this afternoon, went into my bathroom to find it flooded! The rain is coming in from the ridge tiles.

I live on my own since my partner died and hate it when things like this happen.

I just want to give up sometimes and let someone else take care of me.

I would cry too! Big hugs. Mop up what you can, set out buckets, basins, even saucepans will do. Then have a nice cup of tea, and think of any friends or neighbours who could recommend a roofer ( or try Facebook local noticeboards or Nextdoor type apps). Everyone hates these type of household troubles and most of us would love someone to take charge and sort it. Sadly many of us are on our own for so many reasons, we cling on and survive as best we can. Hope you have funds available to get this sorted next week. Xx

I know that feeling well, of being tired of struggling and wishing somebody would take care of you.

You must get that fixed ASAP though, or you'll have black mold in your house.

It suckS OP. After DH died I got invested by rats and they chewed through cables and the washing machine flooded.

Felt very alone, with tiny kids.

We got through it.

That sounds awful, poor you. When did you last have the guttering cleared?

I thank you all for commenting - it helps somehow to know I'm not totally alone.

I think the water is coming in through the corner ridge tiles. I could see the joists wet in the roof. Gutters are clear.

I've rung someone and he's coming out tomorrow morning to cover it up so at least it wont come in when it rains again. Then I guess he'll come back when it's dry and fix it.

Well done you for taking action even though you were so despondent about the situation.
I totally sympathise - I'm a widow and I really hate being the one responsible, especially given how a lot of tradesmen still treat a woman on her own as gullible and stupid.
But we get through it. And that's what you are doing. You are coping well. Even if its not the way you would have chosen for your life.
So well done you.

A good roofing contractor will fix it for you 😊

Can you contact your house insurance?

@Itstherichthatgetthepleasureasusual

Bless you, no it's not what I chose, it's so hard isn't it after 40 odd years.

I just hope this guy is genuine, he sounded it on the phone. I like to think I won't get taken for a ride, you just have to put your trust in someone dont you.

Don't think it will be covered, wear and tear etc but I will ask the roofer when he comes what he thinks.

Oh I totally get that feeling - just WHY did it have to happen to me?

Well done for sorting someone. If they do a decent job it will hopefully get fixed for a long time to come.

Nightmare.
Before I was married I remember thinking 'can't wait till someone else does these chores'. Got married and of course he worked 60 plus hours a week so it was still down to me to sort the plumber etc.
then my DH passed away when my kids were small so it all fell on me. I often want some one else to make the decisions, take the responsibility, just give me a break! Even these past two weeks on holiday it was down to me to sort the money, the tickets, the hire car, do all the driving, keep hold of passports, decide where we went what we did...

I had a similar feeling when I was caring for my mum who was very poorly with cancer at the time.

The fridge had broken, there was a heat wave , I went to lift the bag of old food out the bin and maggots flew everywhere. In that moment I just felt like no one was going to help with with this!

There are a lot of us it seems :(

My mum once said of my dad, "Sometimes I get really cross with him for dying and leaving me with all this stuff to do!" Part of me was shocked on his behalf, but part of me did acknowledge that yes, it sucks to have to do everything yourself.

I remember the first time it snowed, looking out of the window and sobbing because I had to go out and clear the drive myself. Not because I wasn't capable of clearing it but it just felt so unfair. Within a couple of minutes out there my lovely neighbours came and helped me but it didn't make me feel any better really. Nearly 50 years ago but I could have a little cry writing this now.
💐For you, I promise it gets easier

@Notthatcatagain 😊

Holding everyone's hand tonight.

Until it happens to you, you dont know how lonely it feels do you.

When my husband died everyone was sympathetic and said things will get better.

Well they haven't 4 years on.

Sucks doesn't it - single parent here. I'm not bad at DIY etc but recently the end tile fell off my roof leaving what looked like a big hole.

Spent a week in a panic trying to find a roofer and wondering how I could pay for it - finally had to ask the ex for advice (hate doing that) - due to his business he has a team of people that can 'do stuff' and someone came and did it for mates rates - but I can't stress how much it pissed me off to have to ask (financially abusive and a smug twat).

10-15 years from now I'm going to buy in a retirement village - I can't imagine having this stress at 70+

@Notthatcatagain you must have lost your husband very young.

I am 70+ and have started thinking I'd like to be in a retirement complex.

It's the cost of moving which is off putting.

I’ve got a DH and we still find this kind of thing depressing. I can imagine how you must feel.

Truly, I’ve known people who did this and it gave them a new lease of life.

Activities and social events, no upkeep to worry about.

Life is such a horrendous bitch sometimes. I'm so sorry, op.

Ha! Yes everyone whose partners are still alive are so convinced it will get better like it’s just a particularly bad break up.

When the lawn mover broke I locked it in the garage for a week before fixing it (I rewired it)

You will get it fixed. It’s just nice to have another adult there to share the hassle with.