I just want to weep

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Had torrential rain here this afternoon, went into my bathroom to find it flooded! The rain is coming in from the ridge tiles.

I live on my own since my partner died and hate it when things like this happen.

I just want to give up sometimes and let someone else take care of me.

been there and is blooming hard. It will be 13 years this year. have a hand hold

🌷🌻🌺 and hugs for you OP.

My DH died 5 years ago and I've changed lots of things in the house (new gates, remodelled garden etc) but it really depresses me looking at things like cracked plaster or leaking double glazing and wishing I could delegate someone else to organise sorting it out. And yes, tradesmen do talk down to lone women (although I have an awesome female plumber!)

The worst thing for me though is when you feel ill and no longer have a partner to bring you cups of tea or look after you or deal with kids/cook the meals/do pet care if you just feel too dreadful to do it.

A couple of years ago I dropped a mug and it smashed and sliced my hand open quite badly (needed glueing in Minor Injuries, still have scar). My DDs were out, there was blood and tiny shards of china all over the kitchen floor. I actually cried because I knew if DH was still alive he would have got the first aid kit, cleaned up the mess and driven me to Minor Injuries, but I had to do it all myself somehow.

Felt like this when I got divorced even though I wanted it. Just no one to ask about what to do . Thankfully I discovered YouTube videos and was able to fix washing machines , toilets. Still on my own older now and the only thing holding me back is physically able to do it . But now I have time and money to throw at problems.

Sending you a virtual hug OP.

Thank you 😊

Thank you 😊

Sending hugs

It's important that it dries out ASAP- maybe buy/rent a dehumidifier. <misses the point of the thread>

Ahh god love you OP. My dad dies at 54, leaving my mum with 5 of us. Luckily 3 of us were grown up. She did find happiness again in her 60s and remarried but unfortunately, her wonderful husband passed away last year.

She had to move at the age of 76, but now she is closer to us and she has started a new chapter in her life, but I know she gets lonely, even with us all around.

My heart goes out to you.

Nothing practical to add, except you can and will get through this ♥️♥️♥️♥️

Big unmumsnetty hugs.

It's really hard to find good trustworthy workmen whether you're single, widowed or a couple.
Personal recommendation is best and even that comes with no guarantees. There's been various schemes to try and show who is trustworthy and honest but none spring to mind.

Single parent here. It is tough isn’t it.

One of my single friends said the other day that she’d just like someone else to make her a cup of tea sometimes.

If it’s not the big things, it’s the little ones.

Sending hugs, and tea ☕️ x

OP, give this some more thought. A dear friend of mine moved to a place like that last year. He is in his 80s. He has not been happier in the ten years I've known him.

Hope the guy helps you out on Monday. Sendjng positive thoughts your way.

I'm really sorry for your loss and that you're having a difficult time but well done on being proactive and getting it sorted so quickly, if you need to cry then have a good cry ❤️

The bathroom ceiling looks ok but the joists are wet in the loft. Good idea about drying it out. I have a dehumidifier which I'll put up there tomorrow.

Giving you a handhold. Hopefully the person coming will solve the problem.

Let your mind consider whether you do want to move into a retirement complex if that’s what you’re thinking about. Do you have friends and or family you can discuss the pros and cons with? Is it something you’ve been thinking for a while or are you just a bit overwhelmed at the moment?

No harm in researching your options. They may make you decide to stay where you are.

Im not sure it ever gets better, it gets easier to live with, Ive accepted that its a part of me I suppose and my life carried on, I re married eventually and have a wonderful family. He`s still with me though

The roofer has been and identified the problem. Has made it water tight for now, and will come back in a couple days to repair it.

Glad to hear the roofer can sort it out.

Sending you a big hug 🩷

Well done for sorting it out! I wouldn't know where to start.

How are you today OP? Been up to anything nice? X

Only sometimes the other adult adds to the hassle .....

Well thanks for asking, I've walked the dogs between the roofer coming and the pest man who had to deal with the wasps nest that's on another part of the roof. As my mum would say, there's bound to be a third thing gone wrong. She believed everything came in threes! 🤣

I walked up to the churchyard to tell my husband what had gone wrong. Naturally he didn't have much to say. 🙃

I feel better today though knowing if it rains I won't get a flooded bathroom.

I'm so glad the roofer can fix it for you. You sound so much happier now. When you're on your own sometimes life can be a bummer but things can change for the better really quickly. Give yourself a pat on the back, make a nice cup of tea and dig out the Hobnobs🍪

It’s a shame you didn’t get more quotes.

* Get your roofer to take before & after pics.*
Keep reminding him, shout up to him!!

Make sure he gives you some kind of written guarantee. My roofer added a five year guarantee for his work and a ten year guarantee for materials. He just put it on his invoice which he emailed to me.

I paid £450 for a replacement new ridge tile plus all others removed & replaced solidly.

Im in the South West just below Bristol.

Think of it as a learning curve. Everyday’s a school day!
Big hug.

Good point about the guarantee! Thanks for that.

Ahh when it rains it pours!

My mums the same! Hopefully it will be something silly like a glass breaking!

Hopefully it will all get sorted soon and it will just be a stressful memory 🩷

Glad you have managed to get out of the house, that always helps me on the bad days too.

Sending you lots of love ❤️