Is this normal in a relationship?

[lovemywaypsychedelicfurs]

It sounds stupid, but I've genuinely lost sight of what's normal and what isn't.

Let's imagine you have a day off, and your spouse texts you saying 'Can you go to Tesco and buy a whole chicken, herbs, potatoes, and veg. '

Can you then season the chicken and cook it in x manner, roast the potatoes and cook the veg in X manner please?

Like is this a normal thing to do?

what is not normal is the OP fixating on tiny events from a relationship which has ended because the partner in question has been clear he doesn’t want to commit to the op

so it’s not a surprise he wasn’t behaving all that well during the relationship…. he didn’t care

Got a strong sense of deja vu here. Yawn, yawn.

No, that's not normal. If you both work FT, you should split the chores. I'd have said 'no, I don't fancy doing all that on my day off. Why don't you do that tomorrow night I instead?' Then, going forward, ensure that you split chores.

He should also gracefully accept that you don't want to cook, not sulk or moan about it.

Would you like to elaborate on your answer?
As far as I can see we haven't got any context for this conversation. What we do know is that the man in question is at work all day and OP has a day off. Despite this, she doesn't fancy cooking dinner... ok, fair enough.
The man found a recipe he fancies trying and gave the OP instructions on how to cook it.
That is literally all we know.
On the basis of these facts, how do you conclude this is not normal?

I am offering an alternative explanation which may well be plausible. You dismiss it on the basis of... what?

We split everything pretty equally, days off are irrelevant (but obviously if someone is working late and will be mega tired that's taken into consideration).

So in your situation, the person with the day off would buy the things and prep the potatoes and veg, and when the other got home they'd do the cooking part. First person would wash up a bit as they went along/do the washing up after.

But if you want that kind of relationship you have to create it from the beginning, you can't do everything all the time and then one day turn round and say you're sick of it without expecting resistance.

This is irrelevant. I have just posted on your other thread
Stop going over everything. None of this is normal
Leave, block and move on

@Catza
The OP is a regular poster under different names, the partner is her ex, they split up months ago and she is desperate & begging to get back with him & won’t acknowledge that he is abusive

Her other thread from this morning is -
The truth is out - Breakup

Fair enough but I am not spending enough time on MN to know ins and outs of everyone's relationship. I was given a set of facts and I proposed an alternative version of events based on the information given.

I give DH directions that are this specific about food, I do most of the cooking and food shopping (don't worry he does plenty of the other day to day stuff like the laundry and pretty much most of the housework these days) , but if I was unexpectedly called into work or delayed I might text him and say can you do dinner, the thinking bit is the bit he struggles with what to have or how to cook certain ingredients, an ingredient list and a recipe he can follow so I'd probably say get xyz, cook it like this I'll be home about 7 ,

Oh I've just seen who this thread is by, ignore the above. He doesn't want to marry you, he's not nice to you, had a list of things wrong with you and he thinks you've got jealousy issues, for all of our sakes move on and stop worrying about a chicken

Yes I agree with you, there wasn’t enough background info from the OP here.

I think the OP has other problems with herself esteem.

'I'm sorry, I think you have confused me with a personal chef' hit send and block.

You had plenty of good advice on your other thread.

Op sounds to me like you had a lucky escape. This man sounds like he was incredibly spoiled and pampered and will probably not find it easy to find any woman willing to put up with him .

FFS you have already dumped this loser for being a controlling commitment phobe.

Why have you posted a second thread asking if his clearly unreasonable behaviour is acceptable. You know it’s not. Stop giving it air time, cut him off and stop posting about him already.

Life is too short to waste time worrying about the intentions of someone you already know is a loser.

I’ve just read your other post and I really think you need to cut off this ex and block him from your mind. You’re wasting too much time on him.

Did you start this thread because you weren't getting the answers you wanted on the one you started a few hours earlier?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5118618-the-truth-is-out-break-up?page=1

Absolutely no need to start another thread about this relationship. The answers will be the same.
Are you looking for solutions or attention?

This is your Ex right?

The one you've posted numerous threads about already.

What does he do for you on his day off?

He still has no business micromanaging what and how you cook but it would influence whether I just binned him off (he does nothing for you) and a gentle word that we are all different and that's not what you choose to do.

If he thinks it is your job to do what he says laugh out loud and run, run like the wind.