Conditional marriage

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I criticised husband for using touch screen when driving and now he won’t drive me or the kids anywhere I told his relative as well as some health professionals that his behaviour made me anxious . He wants me to untell everyone and tell everyone I was wrong

We live
In a remote location so he knows we need to use the highway . I don’t drive on motorways

Is this controlling behaviour ?

He said he will come with us tomorrow to swimming park if I agree to go to his relatives house on Sunday . The irony is his relative isn’t even available. I asked her and she’s away. His relatives don’t cancel their kids swim lessons to come to us but when we went last time our daughter missed swimming.

That’s the only
Outing he ever suggests . We went 3 weeks ago. He knows I don’t really like going.

He never suggests any sort Of fun trip with the kids /activity it always has to be me

other day he dropped baby while baby was on his lap in sofa baby crawled off and I called 111 and husband recorded the call and recorded me and his conversations

he said I never called 111 when baby fell off toddlers bed a few weeks ago when I turned around for a second

yesterday he told DD 5 who is fussy eater “baby finished before you” and she was slightly upset I told him not to put kids against each other and he stormed off and said I’m critisinf him and he raised his voice and i
said it’s better if I don’t talk

i have spoke to some solicitors

You both don't sound very happy based just on what you wrote here.
I agree he maybe shouldn't use the touch screen while driving, although I use ours a bit as its the way I put windscreen wipers etc on so as long as its quick and safe thats not an issue
The other stuff doesn't sound like a big deal, why call 111 for a sofa fall?
And learn to drive on motorways, its not a big deal and in fact it can be easier then other roads, DD had 1 lesson to build up her confidence after passing her test

You sound controlling.

Sounds as though your dh would be a lot happier if you were to divorce

Stop being so weedy and drive on the bloody motorway ! You've passed a driving test so get on with it ... motorway driving is a straight line ... you really don't need a penis for this..

It sounds like the two of you aren't compatible.

Why on earth don't you drive on motorways?

Some cars have controls on the touchscreen that you need to use for driving.

I don't see why using the touchscreen is more dangerous than putting the radio on or similar.

Sounds like you criticised his driving and he responded by not driving you places.

Not a great argument but I don't think this particular criticism is valid.

@Octavia64 he didn’t just touch the screen he swiped several menus to remove blue tooth from the settings

Drive on the motorway yourself. If you get a divorce you'll need to

This whole thing just sounds like a whole load of petty back and forth, a lot of it started or pushed by you.

You're getting a bit of a hard time here OP.

Frankly it sounds like warfare in your house with you both pitting your opinions against each other with no compromise. I'm not getting into the driving as you both need to step up and drive better.

Do you want to stay together, because if you do you both need to sort yourselves out.

He sounds like a controlling bully. You sound like a wimp who imposes your anxiety on the people around you. You definitely aren’t compatible as a couple.

I’m with PP’s, get a grip and drive on motorways!

You both sound like you're not happy in this marriage.

This is your third or fourth post about exactly the same situations. In other threads you've said you are going to a refuge, you want to go to a solicitor while your husband wants a quicky divorce through the government website, you want him to have no contact with the kids and much more.

It sounds like a very toxic, unhealthy situation, especially for your three young kids, with the two parents trying to one up each other and both feeling/trying to prove they are the victims of abuse. Get a divorce already, your kids deserve better than this!

The controls on a car are literally there to be controlled. Seems a weird thing for you to nit pick at although admittedly Bluetooth is hardly important. Also the motorway doesn’t have a willy checking toll booth, you can drive there

@Octavia64 he knows that will limit where the kids can go as some of their places are far away

hes also
not telling me the date his relatives are arriving in August so
i cant then book a holiday for me and the kids

Why can't you book a holiday for you and the kids? His relatives = his problem.

Nothing worse than someone criticising your driving when they refuse to drive themselves and expect to be a passenger princess.

Why did you call for medical help after your child fell off your husbands lap but not after they fell off the bed where you turned your back?

What a way to live...☹️

You’re right OP, but you already know that.
Leave your OH and find a man that will listen and take notice of what you tell him.
There will be many other men that will be ready to listen to your advice on everything.

@Riapia i need to get an occupation order
are you allowed to rent out the house once he’s out if his name is also on the deeds

It sounds very troubling

Honestly it sounds like you both hate each other and would be better to separate. What is the point of a marriage with this much suspicion and paranoia.

So you called 111 when your baby fell off the sofa while in your husband's care but not when the baby fell off the bed under your care? Given the numerous posts you have made, that just comes across as you game playing and trying to get it recorded that the baby isn't safe in your husband's care. If I were him, I would be worried about what you will do next.

Honestly OP I think you do sound very manipulative and controlling