Is husband being unreasonable with mail?

[Cookingwithflo]

I had bought my partner tickets to two shows in London, I've had to put them both down with his name as I'm going through a name change at the minute. We had just received the physical tickets today and I had asked if I could open them as I did buy them and wanted to check if all was okay, he's gone in a huff really and had said it's not fair and it is his mail to open as it is addressed to him. I know this is silly but I have spent over £300 on 2 concerts and 2 live events and it seems he is really just being ungrateful with them all at the moment. Of course I'm not expecting a thank you but I definitely did not expect this reaction to me asking if I can open the letter with the tickets.

Does anyone have any advice?

I would never dream of opening someone’s mail even in these circumstances

I wouldn’t open anyone’s mail even it they told me to

just find it a massive invasion of privacy

Why had neither of you opened the envelope??

He’s being a dick.

It’s not an invasion or privacy, they both know what’s in there and she only ordered it in his name for an admin reason. There is no privacy to invade in this instance.

Legally, he can insist it’s his post to open but given the situation the OP has described, if it’s resorting to that then it doesn’t bode well for the relationship.

If this was my DH, I’d wonder why he was overreacting so much. Is there something he doesn’t want me to see? I never open DHs mail but this would obviously be for me and my DH would have no issue with this

The behaviour of some of these husbands…it beggars belief.

I don’t understand why it matters who opens an envelope. You can check the tickets are all ok (why wouldn’t they be?) without being the one who opens the envelope.
It sounds a bit infantile on both sides really.

I frequently open mail addressed to dh if he’s not around to do so.
However we’re talking bills and tradesmen quotes. Things that we both deal with.
Anything that looks personal I will put to one side.
Theatre tickets for both of us I would definitely open.

You should have just opened them if you knew what they were.
He sounds ungrateful.

Why didn't he just open it then and there? I would have handed the envelope over and said this looks like the tickets, and he would open it, unless he said you open it. I often buy bits off my accounts that DH wants, I know what they are when they arrive, but wouldn't normally open myself unless it was urgent and he wasn't around.

Is he away from home for a while? Because if he’ll be home later on the day they arrived I think you’re being a bit daft. Excited to see them and make sure they are as they should be is understandable but it can wait till the evening.

If he’s away and won’t be opening the envelope for a few days or longer he’s being a dick.

He has something to hide and was worried you'd open a different envelope I reckon 🤷‍♀️

Of course I'm not expecting a thank you

Why not?

Are you a surrendered wife?

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Why on earth aren’t you expecting a thank you??

He’s a horrible twat. Probably with secret debt and doesn’t want you stumbling across bailiff letters.