Am I overthinking this?
Situation:
Shared fence in badly need of repair, think green algae, cracked rotten warped wood (18 years old). Next door neighbour gave the whole "well as long as you're paying for it." when approached about it. They haven't once mentioned putting any contributions to it, wouldn't replace it, it is patched up beyond repair at this point. They tried to tell us it was our fence when it blew down in a storm awhile back (even though before this they had happily painted it, and attached thing to it without asking). They didn't want to help dh put it back up. We checked the deeds, and it is shared. Suddenly the whole family have sore elbows when they're healthy the rest of the time, lay patio stones (they asked for our old ones etc, we gave them to them). Dh had to lift the whole thing back up on his own, it is metres long, reattach; they curtain twitched, watching. Dh knocked and told them he couldn't do the posts at they're on their side, and they would need to help. They begrudgingly cemented 2 posts back in.
We are getting it 3 foot higher, which they are also delighted with, even complaining about the old fence being so low.
The fencing company came out today, and the neighbour came straight out as soon as they got here, trying to get them to reattach their things back on to the new fence. She said she "had forgotten it was happening today and hadn't detached it yet." They have had loads of notice, and have been reminded many times. The first date was delayed, and she came bee-lining for us, saying she was scared we had changed our mind! Yesterday we cleared our garden, removwd privacy screens, which was asked them to move their stuff, as they have things all leaning the full way along the fence, and they haven't moved a single thing.
The neighbour was hovering around, you'd think they were paying for it! Even the fencing team seemed abit taken aback by it.
Anyway, I have just noticed the fencing company have kindly reattached their rotten little fence onto one of the new fence posts. I wanted to leave it laying on the ground.
They are scroungers, have probably more money than we do. Think, not bringing a contribution to a buffet, haggling type. One of my parents died, and some of the money they left is going towards it, which is causing me to be extra emotional about the whole thing.
AIBU? They have been so petty, uncooperative, and tbh bloody awkward from the start. It has made me petty. We paid for the entire thing, and they couldn't so much an move any of their stuff an inch away. One of the structures they have is pressed flat against the new fence frame, because the fencing company had literally build it with it there.
I realise there is nothing that can be done, it is shared, and are the mugs who have paid for it. Hopefully, the privacy will be worth it, as they've been an awkward presence in the garden for a long time, using what dh calls intimidation techniques. I won't go into those.
I think I just needed to rant more than anything. Thank you if you have had the patience to read this.