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Help, I think I'm going to confess to my work crush

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Stuckinlimerence · 11/07/2024 14:53

Name changed for this. I've had this crush for a year. I work with this guy and I'd say we're friends, but we've hung out outside of work and, although there's been nothing inappropriate, I've felt that there's something there. I was in a LTR until very recently and I know he has a GF. I think it's probably limerence - this has happened to me before and I'm exploring in therapy, but I need to kill these feelings. He will generally ask when I'm coming into the office and can we hang out. I feel like I'm just going to say that I can't and then explain why, i.e. I have feelings for him, not a big deal and I'll get over it, but hanging out is not a good idea. He's a nice guy and think he'll be OK about it, but is it a good idea? I guess part of me is probably hoping it's reciprocated, although I know that I'm not in a position to get into anything serious anyway. I can't ghost him as we work together. Help!

OP posts:
Didimum · 18/09/2024 17:27

MasterBeth · 18/09/2024 16:48

That wasn't the question.

The question was "would you mind your partner asking when a colleague is in the office so they can catch up for a chat"?

Really? I posted this 2 months ago.

Regardless, because I wouldn’t, ergo yes I would mind in OP’s context.

Sassybooklover · 18/09/2024 17:32

Don't tell him anything! You may destroy a friendship. Working together will be very awkward. He has a girlfriend. You need to work through your own feelings, in another way, other than telling him. You think there is something between you. There may be an attraction, but equally that attraction might be only on your part. He could be horrified that you'd tell him such a thing, knowing he has a girlfriend. Leave well alone, it has 'disaster' written all over it.

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