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Covid and 84

40 replies

Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 04:31

Hi sorry to post here for traffic but I was hoping for some guidance as I need to know sooner rather than later. So my mum went on holiday last Friday and my dad didn't go, my day is 84 years old very thin slightly frail. My sister lives round the corner and was meand to be going to see him everyday, she caught covid so we couldn't risk her going, through the night I have felt rubbish, I'm awake now and just did a covid test that is positive. So now I have no clue what to do for the best my sister done a covid test yesterday that was clear but we thought it was best if she still stayed away just in case it;s lingering. My dad really needs someone to go around everyday. Is there any health professionals on here that could possibly help. We're so nervous about doing the right thing for my dad. We don't have anyone else we can ask for help. I'd be so grateful if anyone could help. Thanks in advance.

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HolyMolyMan · 09/07/2024 04:57

You'll get people coming along saying why did you test and just crack on as normal, people on MN hate covid testing. But realistically, I feel for your situation as I wouldn't risk that on my elderly Dad either. Sorry I don't have any solutions, maybe call social services and explain what you've explained here.

Genevieva · 09/07/2024 05:01

Your sister should go. It sounds like she is feeling better.

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 05:07

Hi @HolyMolyMan thanks for your understanding I hope I get some help.

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poetryandwine · 09/07/2024 05:11

Can you ask your GP, or your dad’s GP?
It is a great question. They should be happy to help

Pepperama · 09/07/2024 05:12

I think if your sister wears a FFP3 face mask for a few more days, she’ll be safe to visit your dad. Ideally windows open too if it’s warm enough.
We had the same situation last Christmas and managed to avoid passing it on to our old folk

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 05:12

Thanks @Genevieva Thanks, we are trying to devide what to do for the best.

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 05:24

Hi @poetryandwine I'm going to ring the GP at 8am and hope they will help thanks for replying

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 05:26

Thank you for your advice @Pepperama I'm going to ring my sister when it's a reasonable time.

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dogscatsandbabies · 09/07/2024 05:27

Your Dad's GP practice will be able to organise care in an emergency, but the community services are very stretched and won't necessarily be able to put in place what you think he needs. Make a list of anything he really can't do by himself e.g
Getting out of bed
Getting dressed
Washing himself
Going to the toilet
Going up and downstairs
Making a meal
Taking his medications

If he's likely to lie in bed and soil himself as he can't get up without you then obviously they'll make arrangements. But if he is able to do everything on the list except have a shower and make a full meal then the solution will be microwave meals that you deliver to his door wearing a mask, and the shower will have to wait.

Has he fallen before and does he have a pendant alarm?

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 05:44

Hi @dogscatsandbabies my dad doesn;t each much, I had cooked him a casserole yesterday that I would have taken with me today. I have to get 2 trains to where he lives so I don't want to infect anyone.He eats a yoghurt for breakfast a pasty for lunch and sometimes he will ear dinner. He is wobbly on his feet and just shuffles everywhere. I didn't think his GP would speak to me, thanks for your reply.

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HarrytheHobbit · 09/07/2024 05:49

If he can operate a microwave would having a delivery of ready meals be an option? If he needs help with personal care/housework contact Social services as they might be able to arrange emergency carers or provide a list of private carers, if finances allow it.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 09/07/2024 06:20

How long ago was your sister first ill?

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 06:58

Hi @HarrytheHobbit I am going to ring the GP to see what they say thank you.

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Tel12 · 09/07/2024 07:03

If your sister is testing negative she should be ok to go. Probably keep the visit short, open a window etc. Give your dad some vitamin d to boost the immune system. I managed to keep COVID away from my husband even living in the same house. He's probably more at risk when your mum gets back.

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 07:04

hi @whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil my sister started feeling poorly last Monday and took a test on the Tuesday that was positive, she had a clear test yesterday nut were still worried he could catch it thanks.

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 07:14

Hi @Tel12 I think thats all we can do. Sods law my sister caught it as she can walk to his house in 5 minutes whereas I have to take 2 trains and have a good walk once I get off the train to get to his house.

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westcountrywoman · 09/07/2024 07:46

I think your sister will be fine now. It's been over a week and she's now testing negative. Open the windows, get her to wear a mask, use sanitiser etc. and keep the visit short. I think the risk is very minimal.

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 07:52

Thank you @westcountrywoman it's just such bad timing and we're so worried about him carching it.

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WorriedRelative · 09/07/2024 07:57

Your sister should be fine now but she can take extra precautions like wearing a mask and opening windows, extra hand washing and minimising time in close proximity.

AuntieDolly · 09/07/2024 08:00

Can he get a takeaway delivered?

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Mollylegs · 09/07/2024 08:16

Hi @AuntieDolly I.m worried about him being alone

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HarrytheHobbit · 09/07/2024 08:36

It might be worth getting in touch with Age Concern, they might be able to help.

redfacebigdisgrace · 09/07/2024 08:40

You sound a lovely daughter. 💗 I think your sister will be fine. Just mask up etc… try not to worry.

redfacebigdisgrace · 09/07/2024 08:41

Is there anyone else who could pop in? A neighbour? Another relative that you could call on?

LIZS · 09/07/2024 09:09

What has happened for the last few days?

What help does he need? Can your sister drop off food on the doorstep or ask a neighbour or friend to? Wear a high grade mask if she needs to go inside? If dm has gone away with others there is a risk she will bring it back too.

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