Covid and 84

[Mollylegs]

Hi sorry to post here for traffic but I was hoping for some guidance as I need to know sooner rather than later. So my mum went on holiday last Friday and my dad didn't go, my day is 84 years old very thin slightly frail. My sister lives round the corner and was meand to be going to see him everyday, she caught covid so we couldn't risk her going, through the night I have felt rubbish, I'm awake now and just did a covid test that is positive. So now I have no clue what to do for the best my sister done a covid test yesterday that was clear but we thought it was best if she still stayed away just in case it;s lingering. My dad really needs someone to go around everyday. Is there any health professionals on here that could possibly help. We're so nervous about doing the right thing for my dad. We don't have anyone else we can ask for help. I'd be so grateful if anyone could help. Thanks in advance.

Thanks @HarrytheHobbit I have rang my GP who advised to ring 111 who said people don't have to isolate anymore, I also rang his GP and she gave me some website to look at for information.

Hi @redfacebigdisgrace thank you for such a lovely comment I'm just worried about his age, worrying he won't eat properly and be lonely. I've made him a nice lamb stew and I can't take it to him, I think it would be unfair of me to get the 2 trains I need to get to him but I also want to take it.

Hi @WorriedRelative I think I'm just terrified it would'ny be safe.

Hi @LIZS I have been going for the last few days, his next door neighbour is actually on holiday, I think my sister is just going to ring the bell and leave food on the doorstep

Just to assure - my niece visited my 84 year old mum and 55 year old sister. Neice got COVID on the train. Sister got it. Mum (carefully) nursed both, didn't get it herself. Was fully boostered up.

I think it's a balance of risk, how much help does your dad need and will he be ok for another 24 hours on his own? If he can manage himself and won't be too distressed, then your sister could delay a bit longer and go in tomorrow. If no, then she should go today, she's tested negative but could wear a mask.

Re your casserole, could you freeze it and then take it to your dad when you're recovered?

I think your sister should be fine to go but maybe no hugs! The important thing is if your dad is fully vaccinated? My grandma had covid in her 90s after 3 vaccines and she was just a little unwell.
Of course nobody can tell how it will go so a bit of caution is wise

So your sister has tested negative now, but you have tested positive.

No brainer - she can go around. Why is the lamb stew so important from you?

But if you do take 2 trains, please make sure you go into your fathers house too,as 111 said you don’t have to isolate anymore. What was the ‘GP some other website one - NHS’?

Probably best, you would never forgive yourselves although dsis may have been contagious before she realised. Freeze your stew for another day.

What help does your dad actually need?

Can your sister take round food and leave it on the door step as she's negative now ?

Your sister could wear a mask and stand 2m back from the door and have a chat with him to make sure he is OK, doesn't need anything and is not lonely.

This is probably over cautious as she's testing negative but I understand wanting to avoid risks.

It would be nice to think so but trying to get a GP to visit my deceased Mums partner at home when he had a UTI was impossible as it didn't say "housebound" on his notes apparently. We ended up calling an ambulance

Is your Dad still receiving covid vaccinations ?
Because my relatives who are over 80 are still getting them as part of the vaccination of those who are vulnerable

You can also apply for attendance allowance for anyone over state pension age. It is not means tested & they can spend it on anything to make their lives easier.

https://www.gov.uk/attendance-allowance

Hello @LaBorde we are just concerned that it could still be lingering and could be passed on. Regarding the casserole, the reason I was taking it was just so I know he will have a something that he could just heat up. I know he just won.t bother eating if my mum isn't there.