Birthday invite - questionable movie

[Holdemhigh]

Need some options because I don't know if my thinking is way off here. My 10yr old son has been invited to a sleepover, and the plan is for them to watch the Deadpool movies. All the other parents in the group are OK with this and they are all what I would consider to be responsible,intelligent people. Birthday boys mum is a teacher at our school. I haven't replied yet, but I'm thinking I'll just say we're busy that weekend. What I'm really thinking is wtf!!!. I'm pretty relaxed, but Deadpool is really not something I would think ok for this age group. Would you be OK with your kids watching it?

@BobbyBiscuits - yep comedy but very sexually graphic comedy. Great for older teens & and adults, not so much for 10yr old. Thanks all for your replies. It's always good to get other opinions. I've replied 'Thanks for the invite Tom won't be able to come but I hope you have fun & look forward to catching up with you over the summer.

No way, the torture scene isn't appropriate, scared me as an adult! My 12 year old asked to watch it so we started together and turned it off during the torture scenes , after awkward sex scenes. My 12 year would say no as well!

I've just rewatched it and wouldn't let my 13 year old watch it.
Most of it is okay, but there are bits that aren't and those are the bits I'm more concerned about. The violence and sex is just too graphic. And I think there were some other unpleasant (torture) bits that are also inappropriate.
Certainly not something for a 10 year old.

No way, absolutely not! What is she thinking?

Stand your ground OP, your son doesn’t need to be exposed to that yet.

I say this as a fan of the Deadpool films!

I can only assume that she hasn't seen it or knows much about it and presumes it is like any of the other Marvel movies.

I am extremely lax with movies / tv and I would let my DC watch it but I would never put anything like that on with other peoples kids here.

I really think you should double check the mum has seen Deadpool all the way through! There’s a horrible possibility she’s thinking of Spider-Man or something similar!

What rating is it?

No, don't question a parents " parenting"

It would probably
backfire on OP

There's no way the mum has watched it. Even if she somehow allowed her son to watch it, she wouldn't merrily be inviting parents of other boys to do the same!

I'm actually a bit surprised it's only a 15. Common Sense Media (who I generallt find quite good) recommend 17+. It's an American site, though, and I think that's more in line with the rating is was given in the US.

Be honest just say no it's not suitable for 10 year old it's a 15 film. Don't worry about her.
Perhaps the other parents haven't realised the content.

A 15? What on earth? I'd never show an above age rating film to DC's friends unless I'd very specifically asked. But I'd never show a 15 to a 10 yo anyway. And from what people say it sounds like it should be an 18. If my DC was invited I'd assume it was a PG. I mean I'd check at one point what it was but maybe the other parents are assuming as they are 10...

Are you sure it's the 15 version and not the pg13 'once upon a deadpool'? That would make more sense for 10 year olds.

My 9yo loves marvel but deadpool is off the cards for a while still!

Strange choice as primary school teacher mum would be making safeguarding reports if any of her pupils were watching it and discussing it at school. How bizarre!

I think actually it’s kind to do something here. If she doesn’t know, this could go down very badly…. It seems fairly likely that’s the case as Deadpool is way way beyond what most parents would show a 10 yo - it’s pretty full on for a 15, and at the same time could be an easy confusion with other Marvel films. A side message saying “Hi, really sorry little Jack can’t make the party- I think I am just not quite ready for him to see the pegging/torture stuff in Deadpool. It’s worth a watch through if you haven’t had a chance yet as i found it pretty full on - though maybe I am just a bit old-fashioned! Anyway, hope you have a great birthday and let’s get the boys together for a play date soon”

I know one school teacher whose kid watched squid games in primary school. School teachers are people and can fuck up , including when parenting , just like everyone else.

I was in my 20s when I watched the first deaspool film and I was so uncomfortable and didn't enjoy it! I wouldn't want my 10yo watching it (if I had one)

I would send something similar

I love the Deadpool films.

My 14yr old DS is autistic and VERY much younger than his years (still believes in Santa etc). He would like to watch Deadpool but the sexual content is way, way too much for us to even consider it as a possibility.

I'm quite relaxed about viewing preferences - I wouldn't really be too fussed about the violence or swearing. But the sexual content is very explicit and it's not just one or two scenes, there are explicit references littered throughout casually - like the wanking joke when his hand is growing back.

I'm another person who's surprised that it's only a 15. Very funny film but definitely not for younger teens/tweens due to sexual content.

I think the fact that there exists as PG-12 version of Deadpool 2 might give you an opening to ask further without causing offense.

"Hi! Just wanted to check, is it just the PG-12 version of Deadpool 2 they would be watching, or would it be the first Deadpool? I don't want Tom to miss out but I'm personally not quite ready to have a chat to him about pegging!"

No way. Lots of sex references and sex and drugs and violence. I let my DS watch Deadpool 3 at 14. He realises now at 17 why I didn’t let him watch it when it was released

I’m relaxed and don’t follow age ratings, my DDs have watched lots of older movies, I always screen them first and see what is and isn’t appropriate for them. Each dd is different, one likes scary another dosnt etc.. But, Deadpool for a bunch of 10yos absolutely not.