Would give date a head’s up that it’s your time of the month?

[Californiadaze]

I’ve got my 7th date with a guy this evening, there’s a bit of distance and the plan is that I’m going to stay at his place the night…all going well!
I’ve just come on period this morning (they aren’t regular so I didn’t know) would you just give him the heads up in advance or not worry about it and mention it later in the evening?
I’m pretty new to being out dating again!

Bit akward but I'd maybe say something about having a headache or feeling under the weather because it's your time of the month.

Was the plan that you were going to have sex? Does your period change that for you or him?

Um - why does he need an advance warning? Do you only get to stay the night if you promise to have sex with him?

Was the plan to have sex? Have you had sex with him before?

Telling him and his response will say a lot about him.

I think you definitely don't need to. However I personally would tell him if you have already had sex or you feel like tonight would have been right for the first time.

Like another poster said say something in passing like you are going to buy chocolate because you have your period

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I think it would be incredibly weird to text him in the morning to tell him you were on your period.

Well if they’ve been sexting and have a sex filled date planned, not really.

I mean, there needs to be more context.
already had sex? Tell him your on so don’t get too excited, unless he has an old towel he can put down!

Havent had sex yet? Wouldn’t say anything unless it starts heading that way later on in the night. You don’t owe him or any other man a pre-warning that you won’t have sex that night after a date. It’s not a prize.

I would very casually text and say "just so you know, I've unexpectedly started my period".

And see what he says!

I think on the 7th date and organising to stay at his, it sounds like there may be some hint at doing sexual things.

As PP said, his response will tell you a lot about him.

We shouldn't be worried about talking about our periods. They are very normal and natural and someone who is immature about them definitely wouldn't be having sex with me.

I think waiting to the very last second is kind of awkward. Better to be breezy and open from the beginning about the topic.

Also for your comfort... so if he is going to be a jerk, it's over text and not in person

When I first met my new (but now old partner) I would tell him and he responded by saying ‘well that’s it I’m not taking you out for a meal’ he was joking and we carried on as normal - but, in my old life of my ex was being nice I knew I had to say if I had my period because there was only one reason he was nice and ultimately the niceness stopped.
I think you have to be open about these things.

I think you could say something like Tonight will need to be "uneventful" my period arrived unexpectedly. and then he knows plans have changed.

Depends if you've already had sex or not. But to be fair your whole date shouldn't need to be about sex anyway, a bit more substance would show he doesn't care about that on every occasion.

Yes if you are staying the night then I would assume you were both expecting sex.

I would tell him so he knows not to try anything.

There’s nothing worse when things start to get steamy and then you have to stop.

It may be that you both decide to go ahead with the plan or change it for next weekend instead.

Unless you had very specifically planned a sex fest and both super looking forward to it or any planning had gone into it then maybe a heads up. But even then being a grown adult you'd both be able to manage the change of plans without a heads up.

Surely he is just expecting your company period or not he shouldn't need a heads up. His response and behavior either way will be very telling what kind of person he is.

Not sure why people are automatically jumping on the "men are awful creatures only after one thing" bandwagon.

They're adults on their 7th date and assuming OP wants to have sex with this man, probably doesn't want to have to blurt it out when things start getting "heated"! It's more about it not being awkward in the moment in my opinion so yes I would text him in a lighthearted / jokey way and then just enjoy the evening both knowing the score...

Thank you all. We haven’t had sex yet, tonight we obviously were/are! I wanted to put it out there to him, I don’t think he’d mind but also if he was a jerk about it, I haven’t wasted my time and can move on.

I will send a text and mention it later, see his response!

I agree!

I assume the plan was to have sex which is why OP was planning to spend the night.

OP would be just as disappointed as him.

Some of the replies are quite odd.

Yeah I'd mention it because as much as people go on with the faux outrage, there's very much an insinuation that sex is on the cards when you plan to spend the night with someone you're dating.

And yes his reaction would be quite interesting.

What? No. Don't text him that. It's weird. What's he meant to respond with? He'll probably be wondering why you've told him that and what he's expected to say. Maybe he'll think you'd prefer to curl up at home with a hot water bottle. If he thinks that, and tries to offer a reschedule, you'll be back here outraged.

There are plenty of other ways to get intimate.

In that case I'd let him know. For me personally I wouldn't want my first time with someone new to be while I've got my period, so I'd be breezy but give him the heads up.