Thoughtless gifts AIBU

[Itsrainingten]

Anyone else really hate getting thoughtless gifts and think it's REALLY selfish?
As adults DH and I tell everyone we don't need gifts for birthdays/ Christmas whatever but there are certain people who decide to give us presents regardless. That's very kind and generous IF they've actually taken time to think of something we'd probably like or enjoy. But what I really hate and don't understand is family members who ignore the request for no presents and go out and buy something that there is actually zero reason to think we'd want. And then get offended when we don't gush about it or really use it. WTF is that all about? Some recent examples have been - a cycling jersey for DH who doesn't own a bike or even have any wish to, a knitting bag for me when I don't knit, gifts aimed at 5 year olds for our 11 year old twins.
WHY? it feels like an attempt to control us or maybe people are unloading shite they've been gifted themselves?
If we're honest (but kind) about it because we really don't want all this waste and then effort on our part to have to try and return stuff, we get huffy responses about how it's the thought that counts and we're really hurting there feelings by saying we don't want it. But WHERE IS THE THOUGHT? That's what I don't get. There is no obligation at all to get us anything and we always make that clear. If they must get us something to make themselves feel better then I guess smellies or food would always at least be useful.
Why do people do it? And AIBU to not be grateful?

Ex SIL used to do this
Every gift was some sort of bath/shower/ lotion gift set.

Except I have sensitive skin & come out in a rash at loads of stuff so I only use products I know I'm OK with.
The first time I told her this
And the 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc

Then I left the gift at her house
When she called to tell me I told her to use it because, as I'd told her for the past x years I'm allergic to it and wouldn't use it.

She and MIL stopped buying me gifts, which I was fine with.

My parents used to swap gifts with friends, they received this weird plastic moulded flower one year then displayed it. One of their friends goes to places like Benidorm annually and always brings a gift, nice, but it’s always shells, sand in packets, I just don’t see the point, or horrible (sorry, but they are) plastic coasters with weird designs.

They gave me a horrible wooden cat looking at its own bum. Mysteriously the dogs got it one year so I had to bin it. My sil gave me nodding metal dogs, like what I am supposed to do with it? I have no lounge table/mantelpiece and they’re not my taste anyway. It’s lovely that she bothered, but like a pp, I’d rather have consumables, or a voucher then I can choose my own thing.

🤣

My DH many many years ago hen he as a child was given with his parents and siblings an enormous and expensive box of chocolates. Except when they opened it all the chocolates had been eaten and the little containers filled with Jelly Tots. I suspect his mother was more disappointed than they 😁

Omg yes I really feel for you with this one!
My mother buys for me like I'm 5 years old still, loads of little cluttery kids silly stuff, I hate clutter and unnecessary junk. She prepares all year around for Christmas buying it all, never once asked me if I wanted anything.
I used to keep it out of guilt but it just goes in the charity bag now. I've tried mentioning it every year now forever and she tells me that she's my mother and she's going to buy me that stuff.
I always put lots of thought and effort into gifts and it does hurt my feelings.

There’s alway someone that will vote the opposite to everyone else, I’m sure it’s just for the hell of it most of the time!