I have ended up casually seeing a guy who is a friend of my ex husband.
It's not an ideal situation. I couldn't give two hoots if my ex finds out. I think we're both available adults who can do what we want. But the guy in question does not want my ex to find out.
We all have a lot of friends in common, and one of them saw us get a taxi home from a bbq together and cottoned on that something is happening.
The guy I'm seeing has asked me to minimise the situation and to say we had a drunk fumble but nothing else. That's not at all true, it's been ongoing for some time.
I really want to tell my friend the whole truth. I don't want to lie to her and I also feel like I need to chat it through with a friend. Furthermore, I feel like the drunk fumble story makes it look worse than just admitting we've been spending time together and getting on well.
I trust her not to tell anyone else but you never know. As I say, I don't really care who knows.
Am I wrong to ignore his wishes and to tell her the whole story?