What do you consider worse? Cheating with the opposite sex or same sex?

57 replies

YappyQueen · 02/07/2024 20:13

Curious to hear others opinions on this. Some people seem to think the latter is not as bad.

ps. Not cheating or planning to cheat. Just want to hear opinions

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PickAChew · 02/07/2024 23:41

Cheating is cheating. It's just the same.

Wumblewimble · 02/07/2024 23:44

Both as bad as each other

AmelieTaylor · 02/07/2024 23:49

ThatEdgyOliveFox · 02/07/2024 20:14

Equally bad. Obviously
Edit to add:
If you think otherwise you are suggesting that the type you deem less bad isn’t a worthwhile relationship.
How insulting to those in committed relationships.

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@ThatEdgyOliveFox

daft thing to say & not true.

@YappyQueen

same sex as me because it would feel a lot more personal that someone opposite to me offering a very different sexual experience.

SammyScrounge · 03/07/2024 00:02

Jutemat · 02/07/2024 20:17

The opposite is less bad, surely, cos thats less about cheating and something completely different.

Cheating with the opposite sex is worse, I think, because it means you were always a joke to your husband, someone to snigger about with his new partner You never had a chance of a successful marriage from the word go.

BigPussyEnergy · 03/07/2024 00:41

StepUpSlowly · 02/07/2024 20:34

I am a lesbian and for me it makes no difference as it’s the act of being cheated on that’s the awful part, who with frankly doesn’t matter.

If I absolutely had to decide who I would rather be cheated on by a female partner, it would be with someone of the opposite sex. If they cheat on me with someone of the opposite sex then at least I grasp that they are dynamics and things they might miss from being in a heterosexual setting/having straight sex. If they cheat with another woman then I would feel it’s more personal, like the issue is more likely to be with me and us and not just missing something I can’t physically provide.

In all cases my reaction would be the same and it would be 100% over. Wouldn’t need an apology or an explanation just happy to end the relationship and move on towards finding someone who respect and love me enough to at least end it with me before starting something new with someone and breaking trust.

Same as this - although I’m a straight woman with a bi-curious DP. He’s never been in a relationship with a man but has considered hook ups in the past, but never gone through with it, so if he cheated with a man I wouldn’t take it as personally but of course would still feel devastated and betrayed. He would also be open to a poly set up so is quite free in his attitude towards relationships, but knows that I’m not, so hoping I don’t experience the answer to this post!

ehhdh · 03/07/2024 01:22

you get naked with someone outside your marriage, you've cheated. doesn't matter if man/woman

raspberryberet7 · 03/07/2024 01:55

Sunnydiary · 02/07/2024 20:14

To me it’s all the same. The trust is gone and the relationship is over.

This. Cheating is cheating

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