This is all going to sound so petty and in parts unbelieveable but here goes.
I have just returned from a holiday with my DD, parents and brother. Brother has had some problems with drink and drugs and almost died in earlier in the year. He had an intensive detox but is drinking again. Very heavily, in fact. I didn't know just how heavily as I don't want my DD around any alcoholics.
My parents support his every whim and fancy, giving him money for beer and vapes. Yet he still took and broke my vapes. Taking them from my hand and my room while I slept. I said no and what followed was a sustained campaign of abuse. He called me fat, shouted in a restaurant that I looked pregnant, called me disgusting, shouted at my partner when he was on facetime, tried to push me off the balcony, called me ugly and many more things including lying about things I had supposedly done. He called he dogshit, told me to fuck off and kept doing so under his breath. I caught him telling two strangers that I was crazy and he told the hotel kids club that I didn't want my DD.
My parents did nothing to defend me all week. In fact they sided with him. It ended with me fighting back tears while the three of them trash talked me at dinner as if I wasn't there.
Before that I'd wanted to put my mums phone on vibrate as brother's constant ringing for more money was waking my DD. I reached out for it saying, can I just put this on vibrate and my dad snatched it up and held it close to him. I said, I'm not going to take it or break it and he said, well we don't know that. You might.
I am so disappointed that my parents didn't back me up and actively joined in with the abuse. AIBU to just cut the three of them off with no explanation? I am so sick of being treated poorly.