To find it so wearisome constantly being called the wrong name

[fallingovercracks]

I should be used to it by now and mostly am … but wrote my name down at a toddler group and was called the wrong name, just had a woman on the phone calling me the wrong name.

I know people will say to correct them but it makes no difference, they just keep calling you the wrong name. I know it’s my issue but it does get so annoying!

I have exactly the same, think Roxanne/Roseanne type. So annoying, especially when written down, some people clearly just can't read.

Oh, story of my primary years, the teachers (Irish nuns in the main) used to call me by the wrong name all the time (think Anne instead of Anna, or Louise instead of Louisa). They put the fact I didn’t answer to it down to my hearing loss. 🙄

I never suggested you couldn't ask someone to say their name @Southlondoner88?
It's by far the best approach if you have the opportunity.
Forvo.com is very useful for learning how names are pronounced too.

My earlier post was about correcting your assumption that languages other than English aren't phonetic just because you don't know how to 'decode' them (ie don't know the pronunciation from the spelling alone).

It's an assumption that's made all too often on here.

I'd refuse to answer, every single time . I'd also consider calling repeat offenders by the wrong name.

My manager was "hmm does it really matter"
So I called him Samantha for the day every time I spoke to him and every email I sent
He concluded perhaps it did matter

I get a form of this. My surname is a fairly common one,but without the 's' on the end. So imagine your surname is 'Hill' but people keep saying it or spelling it 'Hills'. One particular teacher at my DD's secondary school was a repeat offender,despite me or my DD correcting her at least a dozen times. So I started adding an 's' to the end of her name. She jumped on me instantly! 'Its 'Holland', not 'Hollands,no 's' on the end. 'Same here' I replied. She still continued to do it. 🤬

Racists do this. Point out to those who cannot remember your name correctly that even though you may be a white person (apologies OP if you are not), it is a classic racist thing, and the people not remembering would never want to be labelled as such.

Happens to me in work all the time (usually by female superiors) my name can be shortened to two very different sounding names, obviously they call me the one I despise and have never gone by. It never stops even when my colleagues will loudly ask why they’re calling me a name which is alien to me.

weird how it’s only ever from women, they’re obviously doing it to disrespect me.

A friend of my husband called me Maggie for about 20 years until he died. My name is about as far away from Maggie as you can get.

🤣🤣 I love this!!

I feel your pain.

My name begins with a K - it’s an unusual, but not totally unheard of way of spelling the name.

I regularly get called just about every name starting with K. Kirsty is a regular one. My name really isn’t very similar to Kirsty. It’s also regularly misspelled in emails.

I think that it makes me far more conscientious with correctly using other people’s names.

Mine’s slightly different. I have a traditional name but there’s a common nickname and a less common one (that’s more usual in American - I live in the UK but have family in America and Canada). I’ve been known by the nickname since I was a toddler by my family and friends. My work place colleagues have always called me this and my email has been using this name. A year ago my organisation merged so new team and email. Suddenly I’m not allowed a nickname (it’s more my known by name rather than nickname but hey), and my team is totally confused why I use my nickname rather than my traditional name that’s apparently “more professional”. It’s never been an issue before. A few insist on using my traditional name, or worse, the more common nickname (which is not me at all). Argh! Thanks for letting me vent.

My husband's sister is called Danielle and he calls her Daniel.

Obviously he knows her name and had done so for forty years. He has a perfectly normal relationship with her and he's absolute not doing it on purpose as he's not that sort of person at all. He just can't seem to hear the difference at all.

He does pronounce some other words with a 'yuu' sound incorrectly. Most famously he says bear for beer.