To find it so wearisome constantly being called the wrong name

[fallingovercracks]

I should be used to it by now and mostly am … but wrote my name down at a toddler group and was called the wrong name, just had a woman on the phone calling me the wrong name.

I know people will say to correct them but it makes no difference, they just keep calling you the wrong name. I know it’s my issue but it does get so annoying!

Lots of people are hard of hearing and can not tell the difference between subtle variations in names.
I am hard of hearing. I genuinely try. But if I try and I am still getting it wrong and people get angry, I just avoid them.

Yep, been an issue all my life. Rare name but everyone has at least heard of it. Doesn't stop them butchering the spelling, pronunciation. And it doesn't help that the most common misspelling and mispronunciation makes it a male name... I am clearly female. It's just disrespectful when it keeps happening time and time again by the same fuckwits

Chinese and Japanese people can not say my name correctly. I do not care. They try but can not make the correct sound.

@Melisha it's not
It happens in emails
It happens if I say my name
It happens if they read my name off a chart/letter
It's exhausting to keep correcting people and I get quite snappy with it now but I haven't found a name to change to that can't be pronounced wrong, spelled in different ways or mistaken for male!

But I'm guessing you wouldn't read an email and type back the wrong one or look at a female and call them a male name
If someone says "sorry did you say Danielle or Daniella" it's fine!

My name would consistently be misheard as "Sarah Davidson" before I got married and change my last name. Every single time. It was nothing like it! Used to make me chuckle. Then one day at work I spoke to someone called Sarah Davidson and told them the hilarious story of my perpetual mixups but they didn't laugh. 😄

That's completely different though isn't? This is more about lack of effort I think.

how do you say those differently?

Does it though? Actually get you down? My name (surname) is never pronounced correctly, it's not an issue, same surname not a married one so I've been using it all my life

It annoys me too OP, I constantly get an E rather than an A at the end of my name.
Find it lazy and ignorant when people can't even show the basic common courtesy to get a very simple name right. Often repeatedly.

Dan-yell or Dan-yella.

I get you OP.

I'm over being annoyed by it now but being called an older woman's name (Joyce) or a boy's name (Josh) repeatedly gets a bit annoying. Usually through work emails and calls.

I wouldn't mind so much but I've always gone by my full name which could have the diminutive 'Joss' but only my mum uses that!

I think the worst recently was 'Joycieleen'. How hard is it to read an email signature 😅

Not all language is phonetical and why should it be? It’s boring.

Irish is a phonetic language though, more so that English is.

The issue isn't that Irish isn't phonetic, it's that most people don't know the language so they don't know the rules that govern how letters and letter combinations are pronounced in Irish. However, if a fluent Irish speaker came across an unfamiliar Irish name then they would 'decode' the spelling and know how to pronounce it. That's the definition of a phonetic language.

The rules for translating writing to speech are different in other languages than they are in English, that's all. You can't decode spelling without being familiar with those rules.

It's not nice. People constantly shorten my name and I hate it. I do correct people but they dont listen. It annoys me more when it's people who are new friends, if they keep doing it, then I don't even want to be friends and it puts me off them!

There is very little difference when you say it out loud. I am struggling to hear the difference.
Sorry if I knew you I would just avoid saying your name.

Well ok, everyone's different but I can clearly hear the difference with those two.

We have a new lady at work and she has the same name as a former employee but minus the a at the end. I nearly fall over myself trying not to get it wrong because it's just rude to not at least attempt to get it right, I have slipped up a couple of times but I always apologise. Doesn't help that she actually looks like the other lady.

I have a first name with lots of different spellings, ways to shorten it etc. I'm constantly having people spelling it wrong. My married surname is also a common word in English but it is spelt with one letter different.

I've had to put a note on my email signature for people to check the spelling of my name because they are constantly spelling one or both parts wrong or getting the wrong first name shortening. I don't understand it; my name is there in my email address and my signature.

As a teacher, I was always very careful to get the correct pronunciation and spelling of my pupils' names (even unfamiliar named from different cultures). It's just a common courtesy. It infuriates me that people can't show me the same respect. I also have a hearing loss and will always ask people to correct my pronunciation if it's wrong. Again, just courtesy.

I would definitely find it annoying, though I think the annoyance should be directed at your parents. People don't think about the lifelong consequences when giving a child an unusual name or difficult or ambiguous pronunciation.

Can you really not tell the difference between a name with an a at the end and one without?
Can't decide if you're being thick or obtuse.

@CiaranotCiaran most people with half a brain can either google a pronunciation or ask the person how it’s pronounced. It’s not that difficult and actually I’m finding there are certain personality types (cultures) who are better at making the effort.

@Melisha are you being sarcastic or pretending to be stupid? Danielle pronounced Dan-yell and Daniella pronounced Dan-yell- ah are different like Louise and Louisa.

Just thinking about this though, in Ireland we've had lots of foreign names arrive in the last 20 or so years. Should the parents have abandoned their traditional names or should we just learn them? Sometimes people are just terribly lazy with all things different when in reality it's not at all difficult to learn.

Or sing the Ting Tings at them - "That's not my name, that's not my name...they call me Tracy..."

I often get my first name spelt with the wrong letter, I actually have the traditional English spelling of the name (I'm in England) but for some reason, people more often default to the other way. I can live with that, unless I'm sending someone an email or message with my name displayed the way I spell it and they go on to respond with it the other way 😡

My middle DC is Alasdair. It gets very mangled in the spelling. However, my SIL is doing a project incorporating the family names and she got in touch to check the spelling and which version he wanted: Al, Ali or Alasdair. That's a good SIL!
My late DSIS was a Joanna, and was constantly called Joanne. She tended to go by Jo though.