What is better - great sex or your favourite food/meal?

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Maybe it’s because I am on a diet right now (fast 800) but I am obsessing over food. Stuffing myself with my favourite food is better than sex imo. I’m only 31 and think this. Maybe I’ve been unlucky with men. I probably would answer different when not restricting (possibly not)

Which is better to you?

Food definitely. Not had sex for several years and don't miss it. 😂

Look at it this way -- you haven't eaten for two weeks. You haven't had sex for even longer.
I think my answer would be the same, even after a good meal. Food every time.

Also food. I've never had really great sex but I've had countless truly delicious meals.

Sex. Hands down.

I think that’s maybe the pattern here? I’d have said food too until I had really great sex. Now feel I’ve missed out and missing out on the equivalent of the juiciest, ripest, most fragrant mango - or something!

I've never seen the appeal of sex so maybe that's why I'd choose food.
Sex is a lot of fuss, mess and sweat for what is basically just a series of genital contractions and involves another person being uncomfortably close to you. Far too much touching for my liking, regardless how powerful the contractions are.

Sex. No contest.

Sex everytime, plus its free and you don’t have to clean the kitchen afterwards.

😂👌

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But you do have to do laundry, so it kind of evens up 😂

Food > sex

Food. Sex is very occasionally great, but usually brief and perfunctory and at a time when I'm knackered and just want to go to sleep (and no, sex doesn't help me with that, I have no idea where that belief comes from).

Whereas a really special meal is always divine, satisfying, and can be lingered over for hours. Again, unlike sex.

I love eating a nice piece of chicken after sex...

I’ve had good sex and I’d still choose food.

Food. Great sex is amazing, but food does not give me UTI, thrush and is not as messy.

Nothing beats great sex.

I would have to be absolutely dying of starvation to pick a great meal over great sex. 99 percent of the time I’d go hungry, even though I love good food.

In fact that’s what happens almost every second Friday when I finally get to see my bf. End up having toast instead of a proper meal haha.

Could I as a question please @IncompleteSenten ?

I know from previous threads you said you were or are married.

Did/does your DH also feel similar about sex, which is why it all works out?

That’s quite a visceral, detailed description of why you dislike the concept of sex. Fair enough, and each to their own, I respect it. I’m just curious - is there an acceptance from your DH that you think all these things about sex, and perhaps therefore he does too / or has other reasons to avoid it, thereby everyone being happy in the end?

100% agree.

I also believe something which is often controversial on Mumsnet..

.. which is that good sex is as much a state of mind, and wanting to experience pleasure and connection, as it is finding a “unicorn” person who can “give” orgasms.

Don’t get me wrong - no amount of “state of mind” will compensate for a selfish, penis-obsessed man who jackhammers away and is ultimately selfish, misogynistic or weird.

However I’ll stop here before I get food thrown at me by the food > sex mob, but I think how we feel about ourselves, our state of mind, our body confidence, there’s so many things that need to be “right” to access good sex.

Sex. I'm having the best sex of my life now at 46, I would take that over my favourite meal Every. Single. Time.

Depends who the sex is with. The guy I was seeing last year I’d choose the sex everytime but most other men I’ve had sex with, I’d take the food. Also on a diet!!

I'm sorry, another one here who would go for sex everytime.I think I've had some pretty good meals but sex can be literally mind blowing for me, I see stars and everything. Food has never done that.

This entirely!

After being sole carer for my disabled DD and working FT, the last 14 years of being single have definitely left me peckish! 🤣🤣🤣

Sex - but only the mind blowing kind, would choose that over any meal.

In most scenarios good food.