Ex rang me tonight

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Just that really and it’s shook me up, we split over 5 years ago as he said he wasn’t 100% about me. Wasn’t expecting it especially as we’d looked at houses and talked children.

anyway I was watching the game and got a WhatsApp call. Missed it and when I looked it was him In the profile picture. Well it was him , a lady and a child so I’m guessing his family.

no idea why he’s kept my number as I deleted his when we split but it’s made me feel shit like this should have been my life. I’m right to ignore and block aren’t i.

I’d answer, I wouldn’t assume they were calling for nefarious reasons and if they were I’d shut it down but I’m a) nosey and b) friendly with most of my exes.

You said you were blocking him. 🙄 You must be one for drama.

Not at all but I want to know what he wants and why he’s calling. I will be blocking him if he doesn’t call again

I would be the same, curiosity would get the better of me!

That passed my mind actually given his job but he’s 40 and his wife, partner whatever she is wouldn’t have known about me so I doubt it

No but grief does odd things to people. Logic can get clouded.

if it turned out to be something like that then the wife/partner could just be calling every number in his phone to inform them even though after she will realise that’s unnecessary.

Why don't you just message saying you'd got 2 missed calls and wondering who this was. Saves you waiting on him calling back, plus gives us all the answer as I'm keen to know!!!

Yes. Never go back.

just message back already!

Right I’ve messaged and said I know who you are , what do you want and why do you have my number. If he doesn’t reply by tomorrow I’m blocking . I’m on nights so can’t have my phone with me either .

Hope you get a reply xx fucking annoying, excuse my French

Ooh good on you! Keep us posted

Did he respond?

Oo sorry I forgot to update. Nope he didn’t: he read the message but didn’t reply or call again. His number is now blocked .

Everyone saying you don't want someone who calls their ex - You don't know why he was ringing (coz op didnt answer), could have been completely platonic. I text my ex the other day to ask if he remembered the name of someone we worked with 15 years ago as it was annoying me. I'd be horrified if his (now) wife took offence at that

Why disturb his peace? What if he didn’t actually want to hear from you as your an ex and not a mate? Have you kept in contact? What of his wife did think it was bizarre that you were just randomly messaging her husband over something so trivial?

@Oldcroneandthreewitches i'm not messaging her husband though, i'm messaging my contact. Why would I not speak to him about something platonic because he is married? This is like saying that married men cannot have female friends 🙈 But I agree with you, it almost completely comes down to how the relationship ended. Just don't see why we would assume the negative in the guy and block him without giving him a moment to respond.

This says it all really. It’s embarrassing what a cliche this man is. It’s difficult with little ones. They take all of your energy and attention at the time. He’ll be a bit bored with day to day mundanity of his wife and kid and trying to generate a bit of excitement in his life. Without a care for the fact his ooor wife will be feeling exactly the same way but just cracking on with it all for the sake of the family. What an utter knobber.

You’ve clearly been through the mill with your illness and it’s obviously sad that this man hurt you, but honestly I think he did you a massive favour. Men like this aren’t reliable. They aren’t there through the good times and the bad. They mostly only think about themselves and their own needs. Imagine being really ill and finding out your partner was ringing his ex when he should have been supporting you. That’s exactly what he’s doing to his current partner.

You shouldn’t be envious of his ex, you should feel sympathy and a bit of relief that you’re not her. You will find the right one, the one you deserve. But it definitely wasn’t this dickhead and you’ve done the right thing blocking him,

What a strange creature

You could contact his wife and ask if she knows why he's been phoning you? 😈

He’s not your mate you were fucking him.

It’s not the same as just being a ‘contact’ - come on now your not that daft surely

@Oldcroneandthreewitches I was 17 when we dated so don't really see it as "fucking" but even so, we parted on good terms as I have with most of my ex's and wouldn't think twice if current's ex rung him for something. I trust people until they give me a reason not to. Obvs completely different if they were flirting / meeting up for sex etc.

I also think if u wanted to start an affair, you'd unlikely just ring them out the blue, surely you'd text first, but what do I know

I'd hear him out. He might say something that helps you move on and close that chapter properly.