Ex rang me tonight

[Deebee90]

Just that really and it’s shook me up, we split over 5 years ago as he said he wasn’t 100% about me. Wasn’t expecting it especially as we’d looked at houses and talked children.

anyway I was watching the game and got a WhatsApp call. Missed it and when I looked it was him In the profile picture. Well it was him , a lady and a child so I’m guessing his family.

no idea why he’s kept my number as I deleted his when we split but it’s made me feel shit like this should have been my life. I’m right to ignore and block aren’t i.

Do you think maybe he's heard you have been unwell and is just being decent and checking on you?

Or maybe his new gf found your number and is ringing to see if you'll answer?

I'd have to reply ad the curiosity would drive me nuts!
However you could just say "hi, I've had a missed call from this number twice now who is it and did you want me?"

I wondered this.

I'd still block. You can always check other people's socials and obits/death notices if you're concerned something happened to someone. You didn't need to talk to him.

(And frankly, after two missed calls if it was something important is assume he'd text it to you)

YANBU block him.

Nope I wasn’t close to his family. Well I was but not in a way they’d contact me after 5 years. I honestly don’t know what to think but I’d think after 5 years he’d delete my number. The chemo wasn’t recently it was 2 years after we split and I definitely don’t have people that would tell him. The only thing that has been bugging me is i recently had to give a police statement at work and and he works for the police whether it’s from there. J truly have no idea.

I think I would have to answer out of curiosity. You always have the option of telling him to fuck off should he be trying to slither back into your life.

Maybe your name crossed his desk and he wondered how you are. I’d leave it. If it’s official police business they’ll be in touch.

Block

Don’t want to be upsetting, but maybe he has HIV or something and has the task of getting in contact with all previous partners or something? It’s pretty shit but they make people do that when they don’t know when they contracted it so people contact old partners when they in reality contracted it after they broke up etc. Even if he did have it when you were together there is nothing saying you would have contracted it etc. I assume with chemo and so on, if you did have it, it would have become noticeable at that point so moot for you but just an explanation for those on thread saying no reason for old partners to contact people as sometimes there is.

You’re right to block. And you’re so much better off than the poor woman in his profile photo.

Not the best advice because I too would’ve have to text back. Also I’m going through chemo and an old friend I fell out with ten years ago has reached out to me and it has been lovely reconnecting. It might not be sinister.

Are you the same poster who had been editing and adding to a draft email to their ex for the last 4-5 years since the breakup and then accidentally sent it? Cause the details sound the same.

This was a couple of weeks ago and the ex emailed back to say how brave they thought the sender was etc

Not upsetting at all don’t worry but no it’s not anything medical like that as I got screened after him and also tested for everything and anything when I got Ill. He’s definitely not given me anything thank god.

Nope wasn’t me but I wish I had the balls to do it. Although I don’t think he’s appreciate an email from me as I’d tell him exactly what I think about him 🤣. Fair play to the poster on here though.

I’ve decided if he rings again I’ll answer it and ask what he wants . I won’t text or ring him myself.

I’d want to know what he wants, so I’d answer or text and ask why he’s ringing etc.

It's the middle of the night so here's a crazy theory. Could it be his wife telling you he has passed away?

Sorry I'm not usually one for batshit theories.

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I'd text!

Oh OP how unsettling for you. I know the sensible answer would be to ignore but I'm with the posters who would want to know xx

I just don't have the personality where I'm satisfied not knowing things. Honestly I'd probably send a single question mark.

The first time I wondered if he'd butt dialled you. The amount of times I've done this, especially when I'm walking in the rain with my phone in a pocket ... Also done it more than once to the same person, although usually it's within 5 minutes of the first call. 😳

Is it possible he's discovered some item of yours still in his possession and wants to return it?

"Who dis?"

Block him OP.

He has no right to disturb your peace. If it was important he could have sent you a text - it’s been 5 years.

Most likely looking for an ego boost as his narrate is shit