To send this new mum a gift?

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I (female) have been close friends with a former colleague (male is this city) for nearly 15 years. We haven't worked together for over a decade and see less of one another since he moved around two hours away to live with a new partner a couple of years ago. I've met his partner twice and we got on perfectly well but obviously aren't as close. They have just welcomed their first child, he returns to work after two weeks paternity leave on Monday.

I sent a new baby welcome gift of posh coffee, a comforter for baby and luxury shower cream and some chocolate for mum. Just dairy milk, nothing fancy. I've also got a card and bar of chocolate planning to send it to arrive Wednesday as a "you're doing great mama!" pick me up during her first week at home alone with the baby. A different friend has just told me this is a really weird thing to do and I'll look batshit. Really? Is this not just a thoughtful gesture?

YABU - Don't send a card and chocolate you absolute weirdo
YANBU - Your friend is the weird one, send the gift!

The 2nd gift is a bit overbearing given you don’t know her. I would just leave it at the first gift. If she was a close friend it would be nice but as a friend of her DP I wouldn’t.

Thank you all for your comments, especially the kind ones who understood that it was well meant! I have now eaten the chocolate and will restrict my batshittery to close friends from now on.

OP; don't put yourself down! Your intentions are lovely. We all make errors of judgement occasionally!! It's only human.

Oh I'd be really happy with that and touched regardless of if we were close or not.
Just send it, you could make her day! And if not, who cares if someone you barely know thinks you're a bit odd??
Follow where your good energy takes you

I think it was well meant, but I also thought it was odd, the two things aren’t the mutually exclusive! If it helps, I had a similar thing over the weekend where I wanted to buy someone a present for getting a new job and then realised I was going a bit overboard and had to rein myself back in! Hope you enjoyed the chocolate and no offence meant, just sharing an opinion as we all do on here.

I don’t think it’s weird but maybe that’s because my husband’s colleagues, who I had never even met, sent gifts for me and the baby after some of our children were born. I thought it was sweet. I was too overwhelmed by constant breastfeeding and far too sleep deprived to find it weird! 😂