Why do stories like this become all about the man?

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This story of the paramedic who appeared on 999: On The Frontline who was found dead along side the body of a 22 year old mental health student nurse.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clkygk383pdo.amp

Yet the majority of stories and tributes are about him and what a wonderful guy he supposedly was though it’s becoming evident that was not the case.

I’d say it’s because he’s appeared on TV but it feels like every time a story like this, and they occur with depressing regularity, happens the focus is almost always on the man and what a lovely special guy he was.

It’s as though women are merely emotional support humans for men.

Prime example of what I meant re the assumption that the woman is automatically right.

Fyi this woman had been physically abusing her husband too.

Anytime there's a woman abuser or murderer, even when the sadistic psychopathic facts are very clear and the male is the victim, there are ALWAYS lots of people jumping to their defense blindly.

Yes there are cases with extenuating circumstances... But on an individual human nature basis, plenty of women are as evil or selfish as men IMHO. Women just don't have the physical strength and societal privilege/entitlement men do, and so are often much better behaved. (Not that I believe the majority of humanity is bad btw)

Not an assumption, just a fact. I studied it at university.

Incorrect.

Men usually commit more violent crime as a whole, but filicide is an exception as a form of violence committed by women in relatively equal numbers to men. Neonatal filicide (killing babies) is almost exclusively committed by women.

It is true that domestic abuse is often present, but the precipitating factors are often mental illness/suicidality/depression, financial stress, previous abuse (by mother towards child), overwhelm eg due to child crying), and so on.

According to most research, altruistic motives only form 1 group of cases, and even then this is often to protect the child from having to face life or the world alone, not necessarily re abusive father at all.

Interestingly, fathers are far more likely to commit suicide after killing their children, whereas mothers aren't.

https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2002/03/when-parents-kill.html Good read but also, there are much more neutral academic studies which all point to the same facts above (contrary to what you stated as a "fact").

I disagree

I saw the BBC article about what a great guy the paramedic was and I also thought it was weird given that this looks like a murder suicide, most likely at his hands. Completely bizarre reporting.

That's a really good article. It's also a good point that prior to killing them he looked up articles about other men who've killed family members and they wondered if the killer in Cavan, Ireland had seen articles describing their dad as a lovely man etc. It's shocking that one of the papers described the killing as understandable and a twisted act of love.

This article is all about how great the man is but no mention of the woman.
news.sky.com/story/police-not-looking-for-anyone-else-after-deaths-of-paramedic-and-woman-13160486

I guess we don't know which was the killer yet

Richard Barratt, a senior operations manager at the West Midlands Ambulance Service, also paid tribute to Mr Duffield and added: "I hope Daniel's family can take some comfort from the hundreds of patients he helped through his time as a paramedic."
Surely they wouldn't include this if the man was the killer with no tribute to the woman? I hope not anyway.

Of course we do

Do you think so? That article is shocking if so, talking about his family taking comfort etc. I did wonder if he was leaving her as he was getting close to the crewmate. It's far more common for the man to be the killer, but there is the odd exception. Including one that was recently in the news. Fiona Beal

Well as was obvious from the start, Lauren Evans death is being treated as murder.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3g60zknldno

R.I.P. Lauren. 22 years old and her life taken from her by another violent and abusive man. He had a choice. She had none.

Very very sad.

Poor Lauren. She sounded lovely.

Oh no 😔 I was desperately hoping it wasn’t going to be another one of those stories but of course it is.