To dislike the tradition of baking your own birthday cake?

[Rizzo8]

I say this because I used to live in Spain where it was expected that you would bake your own cake.

Now I have a partner who does the same because he comes from a Nordic country where it's also the norm. We have discussed moving there and one of my main gripes is the thought of a lifetime of baking my own cake!

No matter how chaotic life is my birthday is one day where people spoil me with a nice meal/cake/event. I do the same for others
Essentially where I have to worry about nothing. Am I being a grumpy for thinking this way?

Can’t you just buy one?

Well that's just it @TwattyMcFuckFace - i didn't do it when I was in Spain! But other UK friends bent to the pressure.

I think it makes much more sense to be responsible for taking in one cake per year into the office(if you want to) than the same people organising cake for everyone else's birthday - because it's always the same people that end up doing it.

Cake is overrated imo. 🤯

Surely not!? Even a chocolate one? 😁

I'm in a Nordic country and born here. We serve cakes on birthdays, but in my family we don't bake our own. We bake for each other or buy in. Make your own traditions.

Oh the misery...

You make your own traditions.

If you don't want to bake your own cake, just.. .don't. Make a different tradition in your own home. I would.

No way would I bother baking a cake for my own birthday.

Do you not have children who would bake you a cake. I used to until my DC were older, now they ask me what I want and bake it, as I do for them.

Oh well, maybe a chocolate one.

@mathanxiety I'd be like that. I'd carefully remove the piggy because I'd feel mean to eat it 🐷
(I'd get over that and eat it later)

I'm spanish and have never known it to be expected that you bake your own cake.

Most people just buy one.

I'm confused now because you literally said...

It's just something I hated doing before in Spain and something I wouldn't like to do again.

😳

Not yet @Bumblebeeinatree but likely ttc soon.

DP is an amazing cook and baker so this is a good idea, can train them up and voila.

So just start your own family tradition of someone else sorting the cake. It was both mine & my husband's family tradition to all get together for a big Turkey dinner at Christmas. We started our own tradition of staying home and having Indian or Chinese. Just like that new tradition created. Easy peasy

the entire thing is odd
and the op lives in the uk

@FirstNameSecondName do you mind me asking which region or city you're from?

It was definitely an expectation generally where I was. But maybe me and my friends have been had...

is this the DP who you’ve been with less than a year and is long distance… and he’s applying pressure on you to bake yourself a cake??

‘I’m from Scotland, and we don’t bake our own birthday cakes! So here’s one I bought earlier!

Oh, what I wouldn't give to just have Chinese food at Christmas. I'll have to suggest that.

So what do you do now when there is a need for a cake? Just do that.

I don't really see what the issue is though if you are going to make your own cake. Say in the UK if someone else is making the cake, e.g. you bake a cake for dh for his birthday, he then bakes a cake for you for your birthday. You have still both made one cake but just at different times. The benefit of baking your own cake is you can make exactly what you like.

I like that idea. It means the effort and expense is even for everyone. You only need to bake once a year.

or… not at all!!

@betterangels It's a game changer. We started doing it when the kids were small so we could just enjoy the day with them & not have to make a big dinner that nobody wanted to eat. It's just carried on. We make a massive order and collect on 24th. We have our traditional Tukey on boxing day. It's so much more relaxed.

It sounds great. I'm definitely suggesting it for this year.