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To apply for a blue badge for ds9

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bbquestion · 27/06/2024 13:43

Is he even eligible??
He is diagnosed autistic and having his adhd assessment next month. He can walk fine. No mobility issues. The problem is his ability to remain focused, he has nearly got run over a couple of times because he forgets to look before crossing the road, we have to be his eyes, no matter how many times we have taught him to stop look and listen it just doesn't sink in!!
He runs around, Randomly falls over because he's tripped up something when running around, I've had to grab him so many times or shout STOP, he's just basically in his own little world and I just know one day I'm going to slip, be distracted by the two babies and somethings going to happen to him in the road. I think he should be able to have a blue badge, anything to keep him away from the cars basically. He gets dla but low rate mobility, does that mean he isn't eligible?
Aibu to just apply ?

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HamBagelNoCheese · 27/06/2024 18:17

happytobee · 27/06/2024 16:50

If you really think having a disabled badge will benefit your DS and that his needs will be met by parking closer to places then apply.
I have my own personal judgement as I am close to someone who is completely wheelchair bound and uses a ramp access vehicle and know they sometimes struggle to park in disabled spaces due to people being granted one when it’s convenient but not needed.
Be aware that the disabled spaces are bigger and usually off the main road for people who need carers to push them in and out of the back of a large van not just closer.
Im not telling you to not apply, you know your DS and his needs, just please think whether this is actually going to benefit him enough to be using a disabled space and not just a convenience for the family.
Can you not continue to use the C&P spaces, they are just as close as disabled spaces?

Thankfully eligibility is based on an individual assessment of a person's needs, not by playing a game of disability top trumps.

x2boys · 27/06/2024 18:18

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Maybe educate yourself than rather than making yourself look ignorant
Many children do in fact receive a blue badge for similar reasons.

OfficeCaterpillarCake · 27/06/2024 18:18

I do the admin for blue badge apps for a living. There's several sections on the forms (in my area at least, but I'm sure they're similar all over the country) The form should ask for basic details / info about benefits /about difficulties with walking /hidden disabilities / about drs/specialists/prescriptions.

Fill in the section about hidden disabilities thoroughly - it asks about being in danger in car parks/roads etc.

Provide DCs autism assessment report, proof of ADHD appointments, ECHP and proof of pip (including the sheet with the full breakdown of the different points) as supporting evidence.

If the processing team needs more info they'll phone or write with exactly what they need to see, they may send you for an assessment which is usually in a community building. Not sure if they do them for neuro diversity, usually for Mobility they ask a few questions and watch you walk.

AussiUnHomme · 27/06/2024 18:24

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x2boys · 27/06/2024 18:29

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And your incredibly ignorant
I'm not going to bother trying to explain as there's really no point with people like you .

Sirzy · 27/06/2024 18:31

To say “can’t behave around cars” shows the complete ignorance. It suggests it’s a choice or something that can be easily learnt which for a lot it can’t be.

DS is 14, there is no way he can be left anywhere near a road because he simply isn’t safe. I can explain it to him until I am blue in the face but that won’t stop his instincts simply not being there to keep him safe.

AussiUnHomme · 27/06/2024 18:31

x2boys · 27/06/2024 18:29

And your incredibly ignorant
I'm not going to bother trying to explain as there's really no point with people like you .

It's you're incredibly ignorant.

I didn't ask you to explain. I made it very clear.

x2boys · 27/06/2024 18:34

AussiUnHomme · 27/06/2024 18:31

It's you're incredibly ignorant.

I didn't ask you to explain. I made it very clear.

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You have no comeback so you comment on my Grammar how very clever of you 👏👏

AussiUnHomme · 27/06/2024 18:37

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TigerRag · 27/06/2024 18:41

OfficeCaterpillarCake · 27/06/2024 18:18

I do the admin for blue badge apps for a living. There's several sections on the forms (in my area at least, but I'm sure they're similar all over the country) The form should ask for basic details / info about benefits /about difficulties with walking /hidden disabilities / about drs/specialists/prescriptions.

Fill in the section about hidden disabilities thoroughly - it asks about being in danger in car parks/roads etc.

Provide DCs autism assessment report, proof of ADHD appointments, ECHP and proof of pip (including the sheet with the full breakdown of the different points) as supporting evidence.

If the processing team needs more info they'll phone or write with exactly what they need to see, they may send you for an assessment which is usually in a community building. Not sure if they do them for neuro diversity, usually for Mobility they ask a few questions and watch you walk.

Sorry to come across as picky but pip is for over 16s. There's no points on DLA.

OfficeCaterpillarCake · 27/06/2024 18:43

TigerRag · 27/06/2024 18:41

Sorry to come across as picky but pip is for over 16s. There's no points on DLA.

Ah you're right - long day 🤦‍♀️

SchoolRefusal · 27/06/2024 18:49

BurnerName1 · 27/06/2024 16:04

I don't agree with this but no one can stop you applying. That's not to say that I don't sympathise but people with impaired mobility need these spaces more in my opinion. Sooner or later your son will need to learn to navigate car parks safely. In the meantime supervise him appropriately - treat him like a toddler. Maybe even use a parent and child space.

I'm pretty sure I'll be flamed to death for posting this but I honestly don't care anymore. There are people who really need disabled spaces because they can't physically walk very well or at all. They need the spaces more than people who are physically capable but just need supervision. Just my opinion, feel free to ignore it, you'll have hundreds of supporters on Mumsnet.

I tend to agree. I do think they are being given out for a lot less these days. A relatives child has one for ADHD and honestly she is compliant and not a risk. Taking my dad out on the other hand who massively struggles to walk and we cannot find disabled spaces does make me frustrated.

x2boys · 27/06/2024 18:59

SchoolRefusal · 27/06/2024 18:49

I tend to agree. I do think they are being given out for a lot less these days. A relatives child has one for ADHD and honestly she is compliant and not a risk. Taking my dad out on the other hand who massively struggles to walk and we cannot find disabled spaces does make me frustrated.

Its.not disability top trumps ,if your relatives child has been assessed as needing a badge then her need is as valid as your Dad ,s
Rather than arguing about whose needs are greater
Maybe start campaigning for more blue badge spaces ?

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 19:05

There will not be more blue badge spaces provided. People already complain about the number of spaces in car parks given to them.
I do think if you have a disabled child with a blue badge, and there is a parents and child car space, it would be polite to use those instead.

AnCùDubh · 27/06/2024 19:06

Check and see if your council has a Risk In Traffic application form, separate from the main form.

We successfully used this route to apply for DS6.

We had to get a professional (in our case the head of the SEN unit at his school) to fill out a second part of the form.

Basically he's a flight risk and has no risk awareness.

x2boys · 27/06/2024 19:12

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 19:05

There will not be more blue badge spaces provided. People already complain about the number of spaces in car parks given to them.
I do think if you have a disabled child with a blue badge, and there is a parents and child car space, it would be polite to use those instead.

I don't really care what you think
My son has blue badge ,and we will park where ever is safer for him be it a P&C space or blue badge space he's just as eligible as anyone else with a blue badge

Sirzy · 27/06/2024 19:16

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 19:05

There will not be more blue badge spaces provided. People already complain about the number of spaces in car parks given to them.
I do think if you have a disabled child with a blue badge, and there is a parents and child car space, it would be polite to use those instead.

Whether I am with my disabled child or my disabled dad I will use whichever space best meets their needs whether that is a disabled space or a P and C space.

in my dream world I would remove P and C spaces and replace them all with more disabled parking and then make it so anyone who gets any mobility element is automatically allowed a blue badge (with a system for others to apply)

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 19:17

@x2boys I understand. And anyone eligible for a Blue Badge should get one and use it. But there are a limited number of Blue Badge spaces. And in lots of supermarkets the parent and child spaces are closer, or just as close to the door as Blue Badge spaces. So where it is of no benefit to you, I am simply saying it would be kinder to use the parent and child spaces.

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 19:18

And parent and child spaces nearly always have a safe walkway to the supermarket. Blue Badge spaces do not.

Lastyoungrenegade · 27/06/2024 19:27

3 kids with autism here (9, 6 and 2). My older 2 get higher rate mobility so automatically entitled to a blue badge. My youngest has one too but does have other medical conditions. We also have a disabled bay outside our house. Apply for one OP, the worst that can happen is they say no.

Just to add at most supermarkets where I live, the P&C spaces are at the back of the car park with a walkway around the edge to the store entrance. Disabled spaces are right at the front of the car park next to the store entrance. A walkway does not equal safe or easy for some children. Mine are a massive flight risk and proximity from the store to the car is much more important for me. I'll always use disabled spaces if they are the closest to where we need to be.

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 19:35

@Lastyoungrenegade I have never seen that. Then of course use disabled spaces. In our local supermarket the parent and child spaces are closer than the Blue Badge spaces.

princesspeppax · 27/06/2024 20:04

My son is the same. We have a blue badge.

princesspeppax · 27/06/2024 20:05

Cant edit but low mobility here also and still awarded badge

BrumToTheRescue · 27/06/2024 20:06

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 18:01

I have explained. Wherever you live if you get high rate PIP you will get a Blue Badge. For everyone else, local authorities set their own criteria. In some places the criteria is incredibly strict, in others not so strict. So no one can tell OP if she will get a Blue Badge, it depends where she lives.

This is incorrect. Enhanced PIP does not automatically mean one is eligible for a blue badge. For example, in England, 12 points on the planning and following a journey activity would mean enhanced PIP, but would not automatically qualify someone for a blue badge.

orangepostbox · 27/06/2024 20:15

I apologise. I thought it did but I was obviously wrong.

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