To think he wants to call our baby after his crush?

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Been with dh over 10 years and I may be reading too much into this but when we first met we talked about crushes and I told him about a teenage crush I once had and he told me about his childhood crush.
Anyway ffwd over 10 years and we're expecting our first baby which is a boy.
Dh suggested a nice name and we've both agreed on it for a while but it's just occurred to me that it's shortened form is the same name as his childhood crush but a male version think Sam, Joe, Alex sort of abbreviations.
It has been a long time so could be coincidence but it's made me wonder if he's picked that name because of her.

We all have crushes and potentially a fondness for names related to those crushes. But a crush isn’t a relationship, it isn’t anything but a bit of wistful longing. If you both like the name then I really don’t see the issue, plus if it is anything like your examples then it sounds a fairly ubiquitous name anyway?

I'd imagine he has genuinely forgotten about it.

When I had my first kid, my colleagues at the time were jokingly trying to convince me to name my child after them. I obviously didn't as that would have been weird. Fast forward four years and my second child has the same name as one of them 😂 I didn't even realise until he was two years old, so six years after I'd gone on maternity leave and never returned or saw the colleagues again.

My Dad wanted to name me Angela after his childhood sweetheart. It was a resounding no from my mum! Plus would have given me the initials AA !🤣

@BooBooButts 😂

my youngest daughter is named after my then husbands celebrity crush.. its just a name!

My DH suggested a name that he'd mentioned years before that he and his ex had planned to name their theoretical baby. Er no thanks!!

OP - I wouldn't read too much into this, but if it puts you off the name then just say you've changed your mind.

Always baffled me that Ross married Emily and then he and Rachael named their dc Emma.
Why?

I mentioned name I liked when pregnant with Dd. DH mentioned it was an exes name but I still liked name so went ahead and called her it. I don't regret it and he doesn't associate name with ex but with DD.

Really? I have been with DH for 11 years and I have no idea what his previous GFs were called, let alone any random crushes.

Unless he refers to her as the one who got away or something, stick to the name you both like.

Emma is not a shortened version of Emily, the 2 names are not interchangeable.

Well I know that but they’re too similar imo.
If you had two DD’s you wouldn’t name them Emma and Emily.

You’re overthinking it.

He doesn’t have 2 daughters and they aren’t real people. HTH

You are probably overthinking but if it puts you off just say you don’t like the name.

My husband has the same name as my childhood crush, I can confirm it had no bearing on my choice of partner nor have I even realised it until this very moment. I very much doubt your husband has given it a second thought outside of any specific conversations reminiscing. It’s not even the same name.

My middle name is the same as one of my Dad's exes! It was a name my mum loved as well though and they gave the make version to my youngest brother as a middle name as well.

My DS has the same name as one of my actual ex boyfriends 🙈. I suggested loads of names and DS’s name was the only one that DH liked! To be fair, I’ve never mentioned that it’s the same name as an ex boyfriend as it doesn’t matter, we went out for 3 months when I was 18 and I have no reason to see, talk to or even think about him. DS really suits his name so I’m glad we went with it.

We didn’t use it, but when I was pregnant, a name we liked was an ex bf’s name.
I didn’t even make the connection for a while, the reason I liked it had no bearing on the fact it was an exes name.
husband knew it was the name of an ex and didn’t care 🤷‍♀️ it’s not really a big deal is it

My next door neighbours DH wanted to call their baby daughter after one of his ex girlfriends. She nearly ran him out of town 🤣🤣

lol, I had a theory about this back at uni, and I tested it...

When I was younger, I had always imagined my daughter would be called Sarah (my first crush, even at 6 years old!)... I got curious about this at uni and asked all my friends what they would call their children. They replied, and I then (so as not to influence their decision) whether they had known/fancied someone with that name at some point... a good 50% said yes.

I don't think it's unusual. Either way, it's a 'childhood' crush, I wouldn't be too offended.

My deluded father honestly thought that my mum would consider Wilhelmina as a reasonable name.
She declined. Not only because it is hideous, it was also name of his first girlfriend

I wouldn't read anything into it. There are far fewer boys' names than girls' names and it can be hard to settle on one that isn't associated with arseholes or weirdos you know.

Four of my boyfriends, including my now DH, have the same name, and both of my sons have it as a middle name 😂.

So it's not even the same name? Just the male version of it?

I have a few naming no-no's (no exes, no same names as very close family members kids I don't subscribe to the whole "nobody owns a name" no unique spellings) but this wouldn't be on my radar.

Apparently my dad wanted to call me after some famous film star that he liked, and my mum put her foot down and said no!