Would moaning about hotel bother you?

[peoniesaremyfave]

I took my sister away on a foreign city break last weekend and paid for both of our flights and accomodation as a treat as I knew she couldn't really afford the holiday herself. All she did was complain about the hotel saying staff were rude (I didn't think so at all), the room was too small, too hot, and we had to share a double bed instead of twin beds. She didn't really like the area (although very central area). I don't know but it's irked me as it just feels a bit ungrateful, AIBU?

Unfaithfulness aside, people like that ruin a good time.

Did she want to go on this break or did you surprise her? The only reason I can see for griping like this is she didn't really want to be there at all.

It is ungrateful either way. Is she just a moaner by nature? One of my sisters is one of these, finds something to complain about in every situation.

Its irked you because i'm guessing that not only did you pay for it, you also chose the hotel!

Just because you thought it was a great place, doesnt mean she has too..

It would annoy me too! It's the height of rudeness.

@MonsteraMama She wanted to go and I discussed before I booked it as she obviously needed her own spending money. I guess she does moan at restaurants a fair bit too actually.

@beckybarefoot that's totally fair, I just think it were me I wouldn't be so vocal about it, it's made me kind of feel bad when I thought I was doing a nice thing!

Incredibly rude and ungrateful.

The hotel would have to be filthy for me to complain about it.

Just rude.

It made you feel bad? It would make me feel angry and I certainly wouldn't be giving her a free holiday again!

It's terrible manners and as someone who couldn't afford to go away, I would be bloody grateful.

My mother always taught me, if you have nothing nice to say then don't say it. Obviously, a few people could learn from that.

It would piss me off and I would tell her I’m not taking you away again. All you did was moan

I always think if someone else has gone to the bother of organising something, let alone paying for it, I'll make the most of it regardless. If you want everything your way, you need to do it yourself.

I recently went on a group trip. The man who organised it chose a slightly out of the way "unique" hotel to save money. It wasn't what I'd have chosen, but it was fine for a few days and I was grateful someone else had done all the legwork. If something was wrong that could be fixed, I'd have complained to the staff, but not general moaning to the person who'd organised.

I think a person needs to read the room,
I have been the booker of a hotel that turned out to be awful. I didn’t mind at all my husband complaining about it - in fact I joined in.

And honestly if I was expecting a twin room then had to share with my sister in a double I would hate that. Even with added hotness of the room. I just hate bed sharing.

It does sound like she was only complaining about the hotel and not about everything on the trip, in which case, she wasn’t ruining the whole experience or being ungrateful.

It’s not personal about your choice - she’s blaming the hotel, not you. It does sound like she went over the top, and didn’t read your reaction to it well. But then - sounds like you didn’t say, “yeah, I get it, but the negativity brings me down, so can we draw a line under the complaints please?”

As long as she wasn’t negative about the whole trip, and said thank you… this would be a quickly forgotten minor irritation for me.

The double bed though 😭

It was a gift.. a treat! im assuming and of course i could be wrong, that the sister didn't beg and plead with the OP for a weekend break?

We don't know enough about the situation to be able to say if her sister should or should not be grateful... it seems that its the hotel that was the issue, the OP has not mentioned anything about other parts of the break?

** on a side note, it always amuses me on forums when people make comments like

My mother always taught me, if you have nothing nice to say then don't say it. Obviously, a few people could learn from that.

implying that if i have nothing nice to say i should say nothing... its a forum! social media, don't ask AIBU if you don't actually want anyone to say YES YABU **

And honestly if I was expecting a twin room then had to share with my sister in a double I would hate that. Even with added hotness of the room. I just hate bed sharing.

I would hate this so much.

Still bloody ungrateful behaviour though isn't it?

You wouldn't open a present and say to the giver "that's crap, take it back!"

So the sister here could have just kept her opinions to herself for 1 weekend and maybe tried to have a good time instead of walking around with a face like a slapped arse!

@peoniesaremyfave this would most definitely be the last time I wasted any money on her!

Maybe not but it's still bad manners to behave in such an ungrateful way.
Politeness costs nothing and for somebody who couldn't afford a holiday she should have kept her thoughts to herself.

VERY rude and ungrateful! That would have really pissed me off, ruined the break and I'd have probably made it worse by calling her out on her shitty attitude. I've sure stayed in some dumps when I've been away, but I'd never slated it if someone else had paid (well unless they did first.. haha).

Some people in life are passengers. Would she organise a nice surprise for you OP? I think I would make the best of this trip together but I would never be organising another unless she was doing all the booking and organising or at least, a substantial portion of it.

Apart from double bed issue I think she was rude. I would HATE to share a bed w anyone

When she complains in future OP I'd respond graciously to her with something like.....yes....but isn't the xyz great.....so she maybe takes a hint. If the occasion arises I'd also try to graciously point out she complains a lot and ask if everything is ok

@beckybarefoot if someone paid for a trip they thought you’d like, to a hotel they thought you’d like, and you didn’t like the hotel - would you a) keep your opinions to yourself out of kindness to the person who done something nice for you, or b) moan about it so the person who paid felt sad?

No, but if she wasn’t paying, she does have to shut up about it.

@beckybarefoot I think you’re struggling to understand. The poster who said “My mother always taught me, if you have nothing nice to say then don't say it” was referring to OP’s sister’s comments. Not the comments of posters on this thread.

Maybe she was finding it difficult having to be subbed by her sister. In which case she shouldn’t have accepted the offer.

Ungrateful and I wouldn't be doing it again

That would be the last time I'd take her away. Not good form on your sisters part at all.

Tbh if she mentions the holiday again I'd be tempted to laugh and say 'well that's the last time I take you away you ungrateful sod' but that's the kind of relationship I have with my sister. I'd have called her out on her rude behaviour in the holiday. She's more than welcome to move hotels if she wants to pay for it.

It's ungrateful and very bad manners. You've treated her and she's thrown it back in your face.