Would moaning about hotel bother you?

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I took my sister away on a foreign city break last weekend and paid for both of our flights and accomodation as a treat as I knew she couldn't really afford the holiday herself. All she did was complain about the hotel saying staff were rude (I didn't think so at all), the room was too small, too hot, and we had to share a double bed instead of twin beds. She didn't really like the area (although very central area). I don't know but it's irked me as it just feels a bit ungrateful, AIBU?

I can’t stand moaners but it depends if she’s moaning at you or with you.

If the staff are rude and you booked a room with twin beds but they gave you a double bed instead, then yes I would absolutely moan about it and want something to be done about it.

I wouldn’t be moaning at you but I would moan about the situation with you/on your behalf.

If I had tried to sort it with the hotel and they wouldn’t do anything, then I would then stop moaning and try and make the best out of the situation.

Yanbu and if she thinks the staff are rude and the room is too hot, she should be complaining to the hotel, not moaning at you. I note you say that she complains a lot at restaurants so she sounds like one of life's moaners.

At least you know not to take her again, and if in future she complains that you didn't invite her somewhere, you can tell her why.

I don't understand ungrateful people who spoil things like this. I've never in my life been treated to something like this and I'd be so pleased and grateful if I was, even if everything wasn't perfect.

Honestly, I would sit her down and tell her to plug in her listening ears. She is having a free holiday and is fucking it up for you. Nobody is rude except her. She can complain about the size of the room when she is paying for it. If she wants to go home she can book her flights. Otherwise, she can STFU and let you enjoy yourself.

Ungrateful and rude.
Don't do it again.
It was a lovely gesture from you and if you were my sister I'd be very thankful.

It's so rude to complain about something other people are paying for. I took DM and DGM out to a restaurant they wanted to go to. They both complained throughout. They both had more money than me. I didn't do it again.

Thanks all - she was aware it would be a double bed as she was involved in the booking and picking hotels. It just felt a bit ungrateful really and she was also rather picky with me splitting bills if I'd had extra drink or water which perhaps added to my irk!

I’d be passive aggressive and say “well, I liked it but next time you can choose and pay”

i hate people who look for the negatives.

The having nothing nice to say comment wasn't aimed at you but the OPs sister. I think it's incredibly rude, when someone gets a gift and says something negative.

But if someone’s treated you, then it’s the height of bad manners to complain. The phrase “looking a gift horse in the mouth” is appropriate here.

Did she say anything positive about the trip? Was she thankful at all?

It was a lovely gesture and she should have toned down the moaning but I would have been unhappy about the bed sharing. If it was hot, sticky weather then sharing a bed with anyone other than a partner would be horrible.

I'm sorry your sister is tight and ungrateful.

Is there something else going on in her life that she isn't happy with? And instead of moaning about that she project it onto the holiday? Still v annoying for you if that's the case.

I absolutely agree!!!
If you made it clear: 'your treat,' it changes the f the dynamic.There is no longer the option to complain. To change something YES!!!! To request some different room etc... but constantly complain = No.

I have experienced this and the person involved Continued to complain and now Ive virtually cut them off now. Darwin comes to mind and these types are known as :'Bores.'

Just s quick additional question.: Is she The Golden Child and you Invisible???? As often happens.

Her behaviour wasn’t good. Maybe have a chat to her about it and let her know how it’s made you feel. Not just the irk factor but also the fact you feel hurt or sad about her reaction to your gift and how it impacted how you feel about the trip as a whole. Hopefully you can talk it through x

Horrible of her.
I took a friend away for a weekend a few years ago and I accidentally booked the hotel from hell. It was honestly possibly in the top ten worst hotels in the western hemisphere on booking.com now (I was oblivious). My friend didn’t complain once and we had a great laugh about it.

Your sister is just horribly rude but as may be the case she could just be a moaner. My sister is like that. To the point of complaining to my mother during Christmas dinner (my mother cooked it) about the quality of the food! If you’re reading this sis you know who you are!!

The salt shaker? No no no

The salt? Yes yes yes