So DS (10 y) was bullied in school for a couple of months by a boy in his class. It was physical and verbal and the young well-meaning teacher tried to handle it. Finally I sent a mail to the headmistress menacing with legal action against the school if they didn't put an end to it. This was effective as the parents were called in and told their child was going to be expelled if he didnt stop it.
So DS was happy going to school again for a couple of months. He has got a lot of friends, boys and girls and gets along with everyone. Until last week when the teacher called me and said that the bully and a girl S had been teasing him about being in love with a girl (true, but onesided) and especially the bully was very vulgar about it saying crude sexual remarks and my son who was already crying said he wanted to commit suicide. All children jumped in to get rid of the bully and console DS. Girl S and bully were put in other classes for the rest of the day. My son is already seeing a psychologist (due to being bullied) and he said he does not want to die, just thay he couldnt stand if it was going to start again. He's going private next year so he will not see these children again thank god. Anyway, I met girl S mum outside (she lives close by) and told her about what the teacher had said and she went livid and said she was going to kill her daughter. I told her no, please dont scream at her, just talk to her because my son has always been nice to her and I have often helped this mum out by picking up her girl etc and she knew about the bullying situation and how much it disturbed my son and I was surprised that she would team up with bully against my son.
So a couple of days later I meet this mum outside walking her dog and she starts screaming at me for having lied to her and that I made her (!) beat up her daughter for nothing. I asked her calmly to clarify because the only version I had was the teacher's which my son and a friend of his had confirmed when I talked to them. She started screaming "dont ever talk to me again, you're responsible for my daughter getting beat up". I was flabbergasted. I have never hit my children and I surely would not encourage someone else to do so. And I dont understand how she can say Im inventing when I just repeated what the teacher said. Im happy never to speak to her again, she clearly is not a stable person. But this whole thing has left me really confused to say the least. And since she's just screaming and doesnt want to talk to me there is no way that I can find out what she's talking about 🤷♀️