Nearly 14 year old and fake tan limits

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So I was one of the wise, confident parents on someone else's thread about their 14 year old, thinking my little one was getting past the obsessed with her looks phase.
Silly me.
She's started wearing fake tan (bought herself with own money: she gets paid 20eur for reffing a match) and I feel a little concerned as I think she's planning on wearing it all the time.
I don't want her getting used to seeing it on herself to the point that she feels she looks bad/pale/sick without it.
I told her she's allowed wear it for special occasions and experiment a little bit beyond that, but no more than once every 2 weeks.
She's sad. Am I being unreasonable to limit fake tan application for a (nearly) 14 year old

Leave her to it, she'll realise how daft she looks eventually. I did.

Save your battles for limiting things that actually harm her I.e real sunbeds, smoking, drinking

Fake tan wont hurt her

It's fake tan, what's the issue?

Also - you are describing a nearly 14 year old as a "little one"? Bit weird.

It’s just fake tan. This is not the hill to die on. If she wants to wear it all the time then so be it, plenty of girls (especially in here in Ireland) do. It’s not going to do her any harm. Her body, her choice

I agree with you and I think it’s better to limit it, it’s not necessarily about it being “only fake tan” but more encouraging her to feel comfortable in her own skin and natural looks.

it’s not necessarily about it being “only fake tan” but more encouraging her to feel comfortable in her own skin and natural looks.

Yeah because that’s the take she’ll take from this.

OP leave her to it, she’s finding out who she is and what she wants and she can only do that by experimenting.

It’s expensive and a lot of effort to maintain, just leave her, she’ll lose interest,
If she has a Dad that can pretend to mistake her for Donald Trump, than that can help to speed things up,

A nearly 14 year old isn’t ‘passed being obsessed with her looks’. Surely that is just the beginning of experimenting with different looks!?

I was pretty orange 14-18 and it didn’t harm me, even if my hands were often a different colour to the rest of my body.

Still kind of miss having a perma tan…

Pick your battles

My DD's the same age and obsessed with skin products, one of which is fake tan. She spends a fortune in these products. I don't even know what half of them are for!
I just let her get on with it. I'm sure it's a phase. If I tried to stop her, I'm sure she'd just buy it sneakily.

It's better than real tan

This is a perfect plan!

I agree with most of the other posters that fake tan, whilst it can look ridiculous if overly orange or applied badly, is not a terrible thing. Most of us can look back at photos of ourselves at that age and wonder what on Earth we we were thinking with our own dodgy hair or make up etc.

I do understand you don’t want her looks to become all consuming but it’s much better than lying out on in the sun to get a tan like I did (and now I’m a wrinkled old prune).

Mine went through a stage of being extremely orange at that age.
As others have said the interest wore off eventually and now she only puts it on rarely for special occasions.
if you’re going to be strict about anything then make it the fact that she needs to use a sheet protector.

Who was the poster who said she went for a meal with her niece and felt like she was sitting across the table from a satsuma with false eyelashes

😂😂😂😂😂

Pick your battles OP. Far worse things than fake tan and as a pp said it's a bit of a pain to maintain. So she'll probably loose interest as long as you don't turn it on to a big thing that makes her want to dig her heels in!

Unless she is going full satsuma and smelling like a bag of biscuits I wouldn't say anything. It's better than sunbeds or sunbathing.

I've let it go with DTs, better than getting a tan using baby oil as I did at that age.

When my DD was that age and going through the orange stage (with red hair for extra ridiculousness), I remembered that when I eas her age I was wearing blue eyeliner, eyeshadow and mascara, pale pink lipstick and crimped hair, and thought I looked fantastic.
Teenage girls experimenting with their looks will always happen, its a rite of passage.

I wore fake tan at that age. I see lots of girls dc age (13) wearing it. Dd doesn't as she swims 5/6 times a week so I've told her if will go streaky. It's also not good for the skin (clogs pores etc) and dd very into her skin care.

Could you compromise and get her the tan drops (like tan luxe) that can be mixed with moisturiser.

I trust that fake tan has changed since I was that age and wore it. I was blessed with an ample sprinkling of blackheads on my face, and the fake tan made them more noticeable, only now they weren't blackheads but very dark brown heads.......

Just wait until she starts the Ming the Merciless eyebrows phase, endless comedy potential

did you just refer to a 14 year old as your 'little one'? 🙄🤔

Just because a teenager may not get the message it doesn’t mean it’s not one worth sending

Show her the episode of Friends with Ross and the tan 😂

Leave her too it, definitely not worth any aggro with her and at 14 I'd think she was just beginning her interest in beauty n all that