Do you call people out who push in queues etc?

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I can't stand it when people just push into long queues and usually say something. I know people will say 'just leave it', but this is how they keep getting away with it, by relying on nobody saying anything.

I know there are much worse things in life, but when you've been queueing a long time and you're tired and fed up, it's not nice.

This can apply to other things in life too.

I was queueing to board a plane last night after a long delay, a woman in her 20s decided she didn't fancy the long queue and just pushed in near the front. A woman must've seen me looking irritated so she tapped me on the shoulder and said 'Just leave her, she might not be all there'.

If you are not in a rush, just sit down and let the rest of us go through.

I do. But thanks for the tip.

If you have a connecting flight, a connecting train or other, want to be ahead of the queue at passport control, it does pay off to rush off the plane.

Which you can't do, if the people seated on the rows in front of you are waiting to get off first (and are not sitting waiting until the scrum have moved off first. Most people usually don't).

Your time is not more valuable than everyone else's.

For some reason, people pushing in while I'm waiting to get off the train gives me the rage. If there's already a queue to get off and you're still sitting in your seat, then wait! Or get up first, if you're in a rush! Although it annoys me I don't normally say something. But one time, as a woman nonchalantly pushed in front of me, I said "There's a queue, you know". She burst into tears and said she hadn't realised. She was so distraught that I had to tell her not to worry and it was fine. So I tend to try to let it go. How are you supposed to know whether they're a CF or there's something else going on?

I got absolutely bollocked for pushing in a queue to get into the supermarket during lockdown. Everyone was queuing the standard 2m apart, then there was a huge gap. Assuming it was the end of the queue I pootled into place, only to hear a (distant) shout from the end of the road "Oi! Don't push in!". It turned out the queue went round the corner but because this person had left so much space (think 30 feet) I had no chance of seeing that. The really annoying thing (other than her piss-poor queuing skills) was that after apologising and heading for the end of the queue I continued to attract her vitriolic mutterings.

I am not asking you to facilitate, I am asking to get out of the way. How can you possibly think it's reasonable to wait until everyone else is ready to go to decide to gather your belongings, block the aisle and be a general nuisance?

It cannot come as such a massive shock that once the plane has landed, you will need to gather your belongings, have your passport ready et have to walk out of the plane?

Which you can't do, if the people seated on the rows in front of you are waiting to get off first

Of course I can. I couldn't care less if I am first or 10th to exit the plane, I need to get out fast. When everybody in front of me is efficient and fast, have their belonging ready and get on with it, it works perfectly well.

Clearly my time is more valuable because I don't have any to waste faffing around in a plane.

It's the same with escalators, feel free to take your time but get out of the way.

I was waiting at Next a few weeks ago and there was an issue with the lady being served at the till. A lady with a buggy joined the queue behind me. We stood for about 5 minutes. Then another lady came to my left, but unknown to me, hadn’t seen buggy lady and thought I was the only one in the queue (buggy lady was slightly obscured by a jewellery stand). I thought lady to the left had just opted to stand there to wait her turn rather than come round the jewellery stands. We waited another 10 or so minutes then I was called forward and at the same time, another cashier came on so lady to the left went to go for it, thinking she was next. Buggy lady went mental!
I then realised lady to the left hadn’t seen her.
It brightened up a dull queue experience, that’s for sure!

I have once or twice said to someone ‘there’s a queue here’ but to be honest it hasn’t happened to me that often- is it really that common? How can people have the brass neck?

There are times when it’s not that clear it actually is a a queue or what queue you are supposed to be in- I’m thinking of shops with multiple tills where sometimes it isn’t clear if it’s multiple separate queues or one ‘main’ queue and you move to which till becomes free first. Or yeah like someone says a gaggle of people but no clearly defined queue. And you know how when boarding they sometimes call some seats to board before others? Could it a situation like that? She was in a seat that had already been called or priority boarding?

I would mostly point it out and mostly do it politely!!

Fine, if you're the only one in the queue. Not fine if there's other people behind you who might not feel the same way.

This! What’s the rush to get on!

On every flight I have been on most people stand up the moment the plane is on the stand and start to gather their belongings etc. General etiquette is that you wait until the people on the rows in front of you have shuffled down the aisle before you move off the plane. 'Getting out the way' is often tricky given the congested nature of an unloading plane (kids, old people, retrieving bags that were stowed in lockers several rows behind where someone was sat etc)

If you are in a such a rush why don't you pay extra to be near the front of the plane instead of being an arse at the back of it trying to squeeze past everyone in a narrow aisle?

Believe it or not, the British are fairly laid back queuers. I was in Japan recently and there were actually warnings in English not to queue jump. It's practically a hanging offence over there.

Yes I always say politely ‘excuse me, there’s a queue’

I don't if they are aggressive, especially men. Not worth it

I have done in the past. Just after Covid when shops had reopened but there was still the 2m social distancing thing in place I was in the queue in Primark standing distanced from the person in front. A couple attempted to sidle in and insert themselves into the gap. I pointed out to them that the end of the queue was behind all the other people also standing distanced from each other, luckily the woman behind me backed me up and told them to wait like everyone else. We got a death glare from them but off they went to the back. A few years ago I probably would have let it go but I'm turning into one of those middle aged women who is so done with people pleasing and out of fucks to give with cheeky twats.

I always put myself forward at the bus stop regardless of how many people might have been there before me or whether there is anything resembling a queue. I know it sounds rude, but I’ve been caught out by this too many times- me thinking I’m letting other people on first only to realise they are waiting for another bloody bus so no one steps forward and I don’t do so in time and the bus keeps on going! Nope. Too many hesitant people who dotter about or can’t see the bus number, I step right to the front and put my hand out regardless of who is waiting

I was shopping in M&S with mum and young DC once. Mum was ready to queue so took DC with her and told me to have a look round (it was a long queue). I joined her in the queue a few minutes later. I didn't have anything to buy but had appreciated the look around. A bloke two behind her in the queue started making PA jokes to those around him about queue jumpers and the woman behind me told me there was a queue. I was really irked and pointed out that (1) I could see there was a queue and that I knew where the back of it was but that (2) I wasn't actually buying anything, just standing with my mum and DC who were in the queue ahead of her. She was really embarrassed and muttering 'yes, OK', but I was so cross.

Don't challenge people unless you're sure they're doing what you think they're doing.

What. In a Tesco queue? Don't be dopey

I have never really experienced it in the UK except in places with a lot of tourists from countries where pushing in is normal.

Someone did it to me once when I hadn't pushed in. It was a very slow moving queue and I'd been standing in it daydreaming, when a man suddenly said to me "Excuse me, there is a queue, you know". I was quite startled and said "I know, I've been standing in it for 5 minutes" and he just sort of mumbled and moved off. To this day I'm bemused how he possibly thought I'd pushed in when I'd been standing still so long.

stonedaisy,will be wary of that one in future!

Because the door is really tiny and we can’t all fit in at once 🤷‍♀️

I don't get why people queue to board planes at all tbh, we all have allocated seats right? I usually just sit and wait till the end and walk straight on.

But with regards to other queues, yes pusher inners are rude and well done for holding them to account. I don't have the bottle, I usually just try to cut them off or talk loudly about it to make them feel bad, never works mind. I am sorry but there is no excuse for rudeness, we all have to get along and should all follow the same social rules.

That's what I do. I also don't do it if I think it will cause a scene. I don't care that much.