Boyfriend wanted to borrow money the day before my birthday.

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Been stewing on this since Saturday. It was my birthday yesterday. Boyfriend of 5 years gave me a card. We would normally do presents around £30-£50.

On Saturday evening, he asked me to lend him a few hundred until he gets paid on Friday. He cancelled plans to go out for the day with me yesterday because he didn’t have the money. I said we could do something free but he didn’t want to. I met a friend instead.

He picks up as much or as little work as he wants. Fairly well paid per hour but doesn’t work many hours. There’s no reason for him to be skint except laziness.

AIBU to be upset by this lack of effort? To top it off, he’s just said he wants something costing about £1k for his birthday in a couple of months. I laughed at him, thinking it was a joke, now he’s sulking.

NeverDropYourMooncup

I see your ornamental cabbage, and up you a very large fresh cod.

Come on. He's taking the utter piss.

Tell him you'll spend on his birthday what he spent on yours.

I genuinely don't get posts like this. And they're every day. Why would you be upset, rather than think 'I am worth more than this behaviour' and dump him. Get some self respect op. Dump him.

This tells you everything you need to know about him.

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NeverDropYourMooncup
''I see your ornamental cabbage, and up you a very large fresh cod.''

I would pay good money to hear the story about how a tightarse managed to come into possession of a whole cod.

Thelnebriati I wish I knew the story, it went something like:
'Happy birthday, I have something for you!'
and out of a carrier bag came an enormous cod.
He certainly won't have paid for it.
Don't get me started on the one that paid for my prescription as a birthday present....
Have to say, DH is very D and thinks he is being secretive, despite my heavy hints. I let him think he thought of it, because it genuinely makes him so happy.

Nothing too glam. It was a stripey purple and green cabbage reduced to clear at the florist next to the off licence (I think people put them in window boxes at the time from garden makeover shows).

I'm already giving him the benefit of the doubt that he hadn't nicked it for the sake of 99p.

We definitely won't mention that I didn't have a fucking garden, either.

Wouldn't have minded something we could have eaten...