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To think women with 3+ kids should pay less taxes

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WhatTodoALL · 21/06/2024 10:44

All parties will have to deal with the increasing number of old people and low fertility rate. They use this fact to justify big numbers of net migration. I was wondering if we as a country should actively provide economical benefits for women to have more than one child? In some countries like Singapore there are a lot of economic incentives to have more than 2 kids. I have 3 kids myself and I don't know anyone in my friendship group who would have more than 2. In fact, most don't want to have even one child citing economical reasons.

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coupdetonnerre · 21/06/2024 18:24

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Greaterorlesser · 21/06/2024 18:27

Absolutely not. The world doesn’t need more people in it. With global warming more and more countries will become unliveable for humans.

80smonster · 21/06/2024 18:40

Wishingitwaswinter · 21/06/2024 11:11

No....People who have several kids are using more resources. Its like that woman from 22 kids and counting and people saying 'but she's not on benefits'.....those 22 kids still have to go to school and be educated, still get dental services and health care.
We're presuming these kids will grow up and pay tax. They might be lazy or provide nothing to society and just be influencers. We don't know. But the stress on the system will be worse when they are old and the next generation is having to take care of these old people.

What about water and food and housing? Yu can't create more water than the world has and one day there won't be enough. There's only so much land to grow crops, not all places with land have the right soil or climate.

People shouldn't be allowed more than 2 in my eyes. It's selfish.

Unfortunately many on MN have kids they can’t afford, propped up by jobs that don’t cover the costs of their offspring, and are therefore eligible for UC payments. Maybe if there weren’t UC payments, people would think more carefully before plunging themselves and their families into poverty, almost entirely on purpose. As you’ve probably noticed, anyone who suggests that families should be net contributors (50k+ income per household member) are called disgusting Tories, which dilutes any intelligent debate around the topic. I don’t vote Tory. Do I think families should pay for/or be taxed appropriately for services they pull on, yes most certainly.

BlueBiscuits77 · 21/06/2024 18:44

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They do!

FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain · 21/06/2024 18:51

@beergiggles "Bearing and raising children is work."

It's not employment which is what the word 'work' in this context means.

Catza · 21/06/2024 19:56

@LondonFox Ok, if we do assume it is unequivocally true, then how do you explain that the three countries with the highest crime index are Venezuela, Papua New Guinea and Afghanistan? Whereas top three countries based on, say, religious fractionalisation are South Africa, United States and Australia… Could it be that there are, indeed, confounding variables that sociological research is/was unable to factor in?

LondonFox · 21/06/2024 20:05

Catza · 21/06/2024 19:56

@LondonFox Ok, if we do assume it is unequivocally true, then how do you explain that the three countries with the highest crime index are Venezuela, Papua New Guinea and Afghanistan? Whereas top three countries based on, say, religious fractionalisation are South Africa, United States and Australia… Could it be that there are, indeed, confounding variables that sociological research is/was unable to factor in?

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I am not talking about countries with religious and political system that supports violence or is based on it.
I am talking about generally "safe" countries where "rough areas" are always a boiling point of several cultures, religions and set of beliefes that do not go together.
Feel free to look up USA population and crime rate by state.

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 21/06/2024 20:56

CrispieCake · 21/06/2024 15:11

This is the problem.

As soon as you start a dialogue about this, people think you're some sort of murderer who wants to compulsorily bump off the over-80s.

Although that's not what anyone sane or compassionate would be advocating, there's no doubt that a large part of the problem we face is that not only are we living longer, but a lot of us are living longer in expensive, miserable ill-health.

I wasn't making that assumption, but, as I said to a pp, when assisted dying is brought up on a thread that deals with scarce resources, imo it's natural to wonder whether there's some kind of subtext about 'encouraging' people to end things sooner rather than later.

I find your second paragraph a bit mealy-mouthed though as you still don't say what you yourself are advocating. (And, btw, you can't necessarily extrapolate that someone who is ill is miserable - many will be, granted, but not all.)

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:12

80smonster · 21/06/2024 14:37

The planet doesn’t really need new humans making, for a variety of reasons, those trying to pin their child rearing decisions on altruistic endeavour are emphatically misunderstanding the cost that children are to each and every tax payer (childless or otherwise).

The planet may not need new humans (debatable) but the UK does to keep its welfare system, NHS, defence, police, fire services and everything else we need to stay afloat. lf it costs more to have a woman place her children in a nursery and work part-time rather than support her at home, then we should start pointing out how necessary mothers are and how much they contribute to GDP - and that contribution ought to be counted as part of GDP (as other countries do). Mothers who stay at home are the backbone of our society and it is time we admitted it.

cherish123 · 21/06/2024 21:14

Why?
No one forces you to have 3+ children. Don't have more children than you can afford.

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:29

WithACatLikeTread · 21/06/2024 17:12

At least she is working. We do this and it has saved us paying for childcare for two years. Should mention we have no family nearby and no available after school clubs. It works for us.

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'At least she is working'! If she has three kids she is working anyway - no need to go out and do it somewhere else and then do some more at home.

CobbldyCook · 21/06/2024 21:46

As a bit of an aside, Poland’s 500+ programme introduced by the previous conservative PiS government (which meant about 100 pounds for each second and additional child in a family, or also for the first child in those with lower incomes), was successful in increasing births and in significantly reducing child poverty. However, it also resulted in rather large numbers of (particularly less educated) younger women leaving the workforce. The latter effect quite probably suited the conservative politics dominating the country in 2015-2023, and may have been part of the motivation. The OP’s suggestion of tax breaks would favour the rich (depending on how it was implemented), but even when there is “free money” as in the 500+ program it’s clear that there can be very significant other socioeconomic (and gender-biased) impacts. This short report gives a brief overview if anyone is interested: https://ec.europa.eu/social/BlobServlet?docId=19760&langId=en

https://ec.europa.eu/social/BlobServlet?docId=19760&langId=en

Farageisatwat · 22/06/2024 18:05

cherish123 · 21/06/2024 21:14

Why?
No one forces you to have 3+ children. Don't have more children than you can afford.

Exactly. But if you cast your mind back to the ‘golden Blair years’ so often talked about on here…. there were incentives to have more children in the form of unlimited child benefit and other tax credits - and many of those kids were born into low economic situations with mothers who were hoping to increase their income and who already couldn’t afford the kids they had… and I don’t think those children went on to become contributors to the tax system - they were the second generation in a family who hadn’t had a job and they’ve gone on to create the third, tying up social housing in the process. It is those people who gave a bad name to anyone who truly needed benefits and fucked the system up for everyone else in the process because it became impossible to discern actual need. It is those same people who were caught out when the child benefit system changed and discovered to their horror that like everyone else they’d have to get a job.

Nannygoat151 · 22/06/2024 18:28

Why should the government pay . Your children you pay for them

ExpatAl · 22/06/2024 18:44

No, more than 2 kids is a choice and should not be paid by the state. Of course there will be circumstances where families need more help but people should not have children or pets they can’t afford.

Nagyandi · 22/06/2024 18:45

Happened in Hungary if you’re interested in the experiment. Families were offered subsidized mortgage and car loans, preferential tax rates, some women were even offered zero income tax rates and early retirement. While it lifted the birth rate from 1.3 per woman to 1.7, the cost of the program was enormous, and improvements have now stalled and birth rates are again declining. It gave an unneeded financial boost to higher earners while it punished childless and low income families and simply brought forward children who would have been born anyway. Meanwhile, children born to less fortunate parents are living in poverty, so a much better solution is to give child benefit to people who need it and lift the 2-kid cap.

Marieb19 · 22/06/2024 18:51

We need to encourage working age adults back onto the work place. This would best be done by providing free child care to those who are working.

QuirkyElleBelle · 22/06/2024 19:15

What a ridiculous, ignorant and entitled comment! This is a kick in the teeth for childless and child free people, who are already paying tax through the nose and you think you should contribute less?! OP you need to give your head a wobble!

MrsSunshine2b · 22/06/2024 19:20

Marieb19 · 22/06/2024 18:51

We need to encourage working age adults back onto the work place. This would best be done by providing free child care to those who are working.

What happened to creches? I remember my Mum took my brother to one at her workplace and often thought when I returned from MAT leave how ideal it would be. Idk how they used to work, but in an organisation of our size it would really be a drop in the ocean of overall expenditure to have a few qualified nursery nurses and small indoor and outdoor spaces in the main hubs where children could be looked after and parents could visit them regularly, breastfeed as necessary and have lunch with their children. And it would massively boost the number of women who stayed after having children, willingness to come into the office and morale.

Mwanamatapa · 22/06/2024 19:34

No, definitely not. The world is already overpopulated. We need to encourage people to have less children not more. The more children you have the higher taxes you should pay.
It's not fair on single and childless couples for them to pay taxes for your children.

WithACatLikeTread · 22/06/2024 19:51

Farageisatwat · 22/06/2024 18:05

Exactly. But if you cast your mind back to the ‘golden Blair years’ so often talked about on here…. there were incentives to have more children in the form of unlimited child benefit and other tax credits - and many of those kids were born into low economic situations with mothers who were hoping to increase their income and who already couldn’t afford the kids they had… and I don’t think those children went on to become contributors to the tax system - they were the second generation in a family who hadn’t had a job and they’ve gone on to create the third, tying up social housing in the process. It is those people who gave a bad name to anyone who truly needed benefits and fucked the system up for everyone else in the process because it became impossible to discern actual need. It is those same people who were caught out when the child benefit system changed and discovered to their horror that like everyone else they’d have to get a job.

It is actually quite rare for three generations of a family to not work. It isn't common as people think.

migraineagain · 22/06/2024 19:55

I think if anyone wants children they should pay for them earn enough to care for them instead of using benefits.
And reling on others if you cant afford them dont have them.
Parents should pay not taxs payers.

MayNov · 22/06/2024 20:10

I think free childcare and 2 years fully paid maternity leave for both parents like they have in Sweden should be the norm, both parents would experience what it’s like to stay at home with their baby, both would be able to bond with their child. I think so many couples separate because of the pressure being put on women when they have children to stay at home and be the primary care giver with no outside financial support. The lack of maternity leave and the high nursery costs means many opt to skip going back in the workforce. Less tax would hardly touch that.

PetuniaT · 22/06/2024 20:25

Turn your question around. Why not have fewer kids?

motherofbantams · 22/06/2024 20:31

MayNov · 22/06/2024 20:10

I think free childcare and 2 years fully paid maternity leave for both parents like they have in Sweden should be the norm, both parents would experience what it’s like to stay at home with their baby, both would be able to bond with their child. I think so many couples separate because of the pressure being put on women when they have children to stay at home and be the primary care giver with no outside financial support. The lack of maternity leave and the high nursery costs means many opt to skip going back in the workforce. Less tax would hardly touch that.

Would we need to pay higher taxes for that? Is pricy!