can I wear Birkenstocks to a wedding?

[bananasandhoney1]

Wedding is outdoors (or at least partially outdoors) on a farm, and the legal ceremony has already happened - this is the celebration of their marriage. They have sent out proper invites (if that matters). Not sure if it is too informal or not? I don't want to wear heels and I do not currently have any other flat shoes that go with my dress so would have to buy some tomorrow if the answer to my question is a resounding 'no'!

Thanks in advance

It's on a farm and it isn't an actual wedding.

In what way are they too casual? They're sandals. Do they need to be shiny? Or have a particular strap? What are these arbitrary rules that determine the acceptable level of formality of a pair of shoes?

I have Seasalt sandals. Are they OK? They have narrower straps so does that make them formal enough?

Such a load of bollocks. And as I try to refrain from visiting Style and Beauty to laugh at the rules people ask about there I think it's entirely fair game to laugh at the nonsense on AIBU

It's on a farm, seriously what do people want you to wear on your feet ?

I wore mine to a wedding last year. Same as you describe, they were already married and they did a ceremony and party on her parents farm. The invite came with a “sinking stilettos” warning so I figured not to wear heels or anything too fancy.

A naice pair of sandals or wedges 😂

Honestly, OP, wear what you want and what is comfortable. No one whose opinion matters to you will give a shit what you have on your feet because they’ll be too busy chatting to you to notice. And do you really care about the opinion of the sort of people who’d judge you for this?

Yes but not battered old ones that are really only suitable for the garden or paddling at the beach

Yes, I've worn nothing else for decades as I used to have terrible plantar fasciitis- I have a gold pair and I wore a long maxi dress. I've also worn red ones to a wedding and black patent ones- but I prefer the Madrid ones though.

Sorry but even I, the most ungirlie girl in all girl land, think they are fugly as fuck.

No, too casual.

I love these may buy them!

And what would be the consequences of this? Will she be turned away for wearing the wrong beachy shoes? Maybe as it's a farm wellies would be most appropriate?

Go ahead! I wear Birkenstocks that are really ugly day to day because they are comfortable. I am under no illusion that they are in anyway nice to look at.

What?

I answered the question and gave further advice never to come here for wedding outfit advice

They'll be absolutely fine, hope you have a great time, sounds like it will fun!

Maybe it's your foot? 😂

The only thing is, if they are the ones with cork soles, you could damage them if the grass is at all wet, eg evening dew.

I think they're fine.

I've not been able to wear heels for years - not even naice wedges - so have worn flat shoes/sandals to many weddings, including my own. Who looks at what other people are wearing on their feet anyway?

Mumsnet is here for anything, it’s a forum so get over yourself.

😜 Maybe, just the right one mind the left one is a beaut.

I think the people offended by other people's entirely reasonable footwear choices are the ones who need to get over themselves.

Yes, wear whatever you like. It’s nobody else’s business and your comfort important.

Once they’ve all had a few drinks they won’t even care !

It was advice to the OP

Because you get crap like this

MN is weird about wedding attire

Yes, you can wear what you like. Virtually nobody else will notice. They definitely won't remember this time next year. Just don't wear a white dress. Or black.

In recent years, I was a bridesmaid in a yurt / riverside wedding. Non-traditional wedding attire was encouraged. I bought some "fancy" wellies to go, but it didn't rain so wore heels all day and felt overdressed.

If you're really worried, best person to check with, would be the bride (so long as phrased in such a way that they can say no, if that's what they feel). Generally I find brides-to-be like thinking about weddings, and are happy to oblige any questions about the day.

Oh God, NO. shudder

Wear what's comfy