To bin a ruined expensive jumper

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Help!!

I've shrunk my husbands jumper. I think it's quite expensive, it's Pal Zileri 100% extra fine Lana merino.

It has a hand wash symbol and so I just stuck in the machine on low heat. It would now fit a 5 year old!

Would I be unreasonable to just bin it and hope he never asks about it or can this be fixed at all?

I'm thinking bin it...

If I owned an expensive silk dress I wouldn't throw it in the basket to be gathered up with all the other laundry. I'd make sure the person responsible for laundry knew it needed special treatment or do it myself. Although it's more likely I wouldn't buy myself an unnecessary chore, which probably the OP's DH wouldn't either if it was him doing the laundry.

Was going to suggest this too.

Does he buy expensive items and expect you to handwashing them? Or did you just bung it in when you happened to be doing some washing?

Sadly, won't work if it's 'felted', see my post a couple back.

TBF some machines (Miele in particular ime) do "hand wash" better than hands. My trusty Miele has always been used for hand wash because it does a better job than I can ever do ! The drum is honeycomb and the soft spin does a better job than wringing by hand. So honestly I never actually hand wash anything!

He's your husband, just tell him. If it was not dumped in the washbasket with everything else then an apology is in order, if it was... he took his chances...

In future let any expensive hand wash only stuff build into a pile and tell him "you know what I'm like for ruining that stuff... I'm not going near it"

Tell him op imagine if this was reversed and your husband damaged something of yours and pretended not to know about it.

Seriously what's the worse that can happen he becomes annoyed that you accidentally ruined his jumper, you could look to replace it on likes of eBay vinted see if there's another similar jumper on there but seriously I wouldn't lie.

I once ruined my husband's shorts didn't realise they weren't meant to go in tumble dryer when they came out in bits I was mortified but accidents happen.

Why is sexism allowed here if it relates to men? It's horrible. There's literally nothing to say the op is some downtrodden cinderella scrubbing away for her wicked stepmother husband, the op said she actively ignored washing instructions and ruined something very expensive belonging to someone else. Ridiculous

Thank you all for the replies.
I think something sneaky is called for, rather than just confessing. As I actively ignored the instructions and it will be whole drama about carelessness.
Will have a go at fixing it with the conditioner and if it doesn't work I'll just hide it with my clothes. If he asks about it in a few months/years time I'll tell him then. He'll probably not even think to wear it if it's not in front of him, so may get away with it.
If he damaged something of mine I would expect similar underhand tactics.

That sounds very sad as a relationship where you choose to lie to each other :(

I suppose we're all different, but that sounds horrible

I'd blame him for buying an expensive, high maintenance jumper 😁

It's interesting that the only reason you won't 'confess' is because it'll be a 'whole drama' of him holding you accountable for your actions. Almost like you have form for this

Why did you actively ignore the washing instructions?

My husband has ruined a couple of my silk things by not reading the washing instructions. I said 'never mind thanks for doing the washing' and I keep my delicates that I care about separate and do it myself now. By my reckoning if someone else washes your soiled clothes you are grateful for whatever they do.

What a sad situation when you’d rather lie to your DH rather than be honest.
I hope you don’t have kids together because it doesn’t bode well for either of you at all. 🙁

I machine wash all my 'hand wash' and even 'dry clean' items on a cold wash and rinse/ gentle cycle, with Woolite. I haven't damaged a single item yet, and one of the items I've washed was a wool pea coat that a dry cleaner hadn't managed to clean properly.

The mistake here was to put it in a warm wash, and probably unsuitable detergent too.

A drama, you say?

He's got a cheek. If he owns items that are expensive and he cares about them, he needs to wash them himself or bring them out for dry cleaning.

Sorry you're feeling apprehensive here. That's not a nice feeling.

Almost like he thinks his wife is the skivvy who owes him domestic services and he has the right to 'hold her accountable'

Then he should have done it himself. I have lots of very precious knitted garments and I'm very careful to never include them in the general laundry so I can handwash them myself. It's entirely my responsibility (and yes, DH does much of the laundry).

i have done it - It was a brand new jumper that he got as a present - i felt guilty about it but i did manage to find it on EBAY after and did replace it. I would suggest you do confess though, like if he goes super mad then you have serious problems. My husband was like its was an accident but did joke that how i manged to do it to his new jumper and nothing really happens to my clothes 😂 Then Bloody did it again to two of my jumpers aswell - the fabric conditioner trick did not work. Now i send everything out to be dry cleaned that is cashmere, don't care how much it costs

Could you suggest to your husband that he has put on inordinate amount of weight?

And then produce the jumper to prove your point?

(Probably best not to do this.)

This is the 2nd thread in a few days about wife being afraid of dh reaction after damaging a possession, be it a fancy car or jumper - accidents happen

Don't bin it. You wouldnt want someone to do that with anything that belongs to you. And be left wondering where its gone.

Just tell him, apologise and bear with his annoyance. At least you wont have to hide/worry about it longer than necessary. Offer to replace it if you can.

If you're genuinely scared of his potential reaction then you have bigger problems than a shrunken jumper.

Quite sad really, you knew it was expensive and stuck it in the washer without reading the instructions. Seems like you're saying you ruined it on purpose, and yes YWBU to not tell him