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DH not claiming work expenses

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Indiaplain · 20/06/2024 08:34

DH is a teacher and has just returned from a school trip abroad. He spent around £200 on meals and travel for himself that weren't included (they were in Switzerland so v pricey!)

He says that as teachers they're expected to pay this and he won't ask about claiming back expenses. I think perhaps the lead trip organiser (his boss) should have included the teachers expenses in the pupils costs but didn't. He doesn't want to get her in trouble and won't try to get reimbursed.

This financially puts us in our overdraft this month and I'm annoyed as it's not usual or right - imo - that teachers should suck up this cost? AIBU to feel annoyed?

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AdoraBell · 20/06/2024 11:14

How is he going to clear the overdraft OP?

CeasarS · 20/06/2024 11:17

Of course all this assumes that they were legitimate expenses. It's most likely he doesn't want to ask because he knows he spent too much on things that weren't necessary.

budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 11:26

What was the "work trip" for? Spot of skiing over half term ....hardly educational so as a parent I'd expect if I'm paying extra on my child's costs to cover a teacher also going that they also take their own spending money to cover their own lunches etc - especially if those costs weren't Included in the kids costs either and they were having to pay on the day for them

I'd expect to pay enough for my child's ski trip that it covered the teachers expenses. It's not a 'jolly', it's a massive responsibility to take other peoples children abroad. What difference does in make if it's educational or not, the teachers are still at work, and on duty 24/7. No teacher should be out of pocket on a trip. I think there should be an allowance for teachers to get a paid lunch, covered by the cost of the trip, even if the children have to buy their own.

As a cub leader we go camping, or to a PGL type residential, and all our meals are covered. But if we go on a day trip to a theme park etc, we bring our own packed lunch. The problem with a week long trip abroad is that teachers can't really make a packed lunch each day if staying in a hotel. So there should be an allowance to cover a basic lunch. If they choose to spend more than the allowance, then that's on them

Sahara123 · 20/06/2024 11:26

CeasarS · 20/06/2024 11:12

Every school budget has a contingency pot. It might be small, but it will be there. Honestly, this is nonsense. I am an SBM and have been writing school budgets for 15 years. Yes there will be a process to follow, yes it's disappointing and annoying for finance staff when people don't do it properly and in advance, but it can always be fixed.

We’re a through school so I suppose I’m thinking of it as there being many school trips over a year and if everyone claimed expenses it wouldn’t be sustainable. In an emergency maybe I could claim, but it reality people don’t , doesn’t make it right I guess, which feeds into what you were saying about teachers bringing it on themselves.
Im really just reflecting on what happens here . Which isn’t nonsense, it’s how it is.
I don’t work Thursdays in case anyone’s wondering 🤣

Roseyjane · 20/06/2024 11:33

He needs to say no to these trips. If 200 puts you in over draft he can’t afford it. It’s that simple, I understand he gets a trip abroad for 200 quid, so for him it’s a small price , yes he’s working but it’s a jolly also and somewhere he clearly couldn’t afford to go independently. In future be very clear with him, you can’t afford it so he can’t go.

Indiaplain · 20/06/2024 11:41

Thanks all - lots of useful insights here. In answer to PP's questions, it was a science trip to visit CERN. Defo not a jolly, as lots of students to be responsible for and logistics to organise. I dont think he would need to claim back the full £200, some was on treats and coffees etc. It is more the trams rides and the lunches that he had to pay for that seems wrong. Lesson learned anyway - pretty sure he will be trying to get out of undertaking this trip again next year.

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Roseyjane · 20/06/2024 11:41

Indiaplain · 20/06/2024 08:58

That's interesting- can't think of any other professions where that would be acceptable

Is it not though with teachers that you volunteer or agree to go, rather than have no option? Is this not the difference?

budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 11:43

Is it not though with teachers that you volunteer or agree to go, rather than have no option? Is this not the difference?

Teachers still shouldn't be out of pocket though, even if they volunteer to go. If they didn't volunteer, then the children would miss out.

SuuzeeeQ · 20/06/2024 11:44

Ozanj · 20/06/2024 11:13

Most private companies I know will only give you £20-£30 a day in Switzerland. If you go over that it’s on you. So him claiming back 200 is ridiculous

I think you need to drill down to every penny he spent while there and tell him, very honestly, that it wasn’t a holiday. He was there for work and so should have made every effort to reduce costs including packing snacks / bread etc for sandwiches while there. Spending £200 of family money on meals and trams was stupid.

Absolutely not. Switzerland in my organisation is the country where you can claim the most. £20 gets you lunch from a supermarket but nothing else.

saraclara · 20/06/2024 12:43

CeasarS · 20/06/2024 11:02

Your school is being badly run then.

The only time a teacher would pay for any of those things at mine is when they have left it too late to order through the proper channels and don't want to have the conversation about why that was and why they need reimbursing.

It's taxpayer's money, of course schools need to be careful with it and things need to be accounted for with proper paperwork/audit trail, but there's no need whatsoever for teachers to be buying gluesticks.

What kind of school do you work in? Because I have never worked in one, over for decades of teaching, that would pay out for this or any other similar expense, if not agreed beforehand. Especially not £200! That was my entire year's budget for my (core) subject.

The only expenses I've ever been able to claim were for petrol for visiting other schools, or going on courses.

CeasarS · 20/06/2024 12:50

saraclara · 20/06/2024 12:43

What kind of school do you work in? Because I have never worked in one, over for decades of teaching, that would pay out for this or any other similar expense, if not agreed beforehand. Especially not £200! That was my entire year's budget for my (core) subject.

The only expenses I've ever been able to claim were for petrol for visiting other schools, or going on courses.

I've worked in three different schools, a primary, a secondary and a PRU, all maintained. In none of them, as Business Manager, did I expect staff to be out of pocket for business expenses. I tried very hard to educate them to plan things properly and include all costs, but mistakes happen and if they were genuine expenses, I'd still have paid. They'd have had to come and tell me what went wrong and how they managed to spend so much, which I understand would put some off, but I never deliberately made it difficult. From OP's follow up it's clear the actual expenses are not as much as £200 though.

In the PRU we actually had plenty of cash that need spending, but the first assumption of staff was still that they needed to save money all the time and didn't want to ask for resources, claim expenses etc.

Valeriekat · 20/06/2024 14:09

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Of course lunches should be covered.

TorturedPoetsDepartmentAnthology · 20/06/2024 15:42

£200 is ridiculous but he shouldn’t be out of pocket for basic expenses like travel and a meal allowance. It’s not ok for him to have to pay all that for work! It’s unacceptable.

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tttigress · 20/06/2024 16:14

Not sure why people think coffee and ice-cream is a luxury. Isn't it normal to get a per diem for incidental items?

Imagine if he had bill his hourly rate for all that time being responsible for the kids.

I kind of agree this is bad management. Surely a trip / activity / whatever should be properly costed. If there is no budget/ no one will pay, don't do the activity.

budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 17:07

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But presumably this is at a reasonable cost, and also he has the option to bring sandwiches from home.

When away on a trip, staying in a hotel, teachers have no choice but to buy lunch out if it's not included in the trip. This will cost way more than a packed lunch or school dinner, especially in a country such as Switzerland. Why should a teacher be that much out of pocket for the privilege of taking other peoples children on a trip? There should be an allowance to cover a basic lunch.

fieldsofbutterflies · 20/06/2024 17:19

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Do you really not see the difference between eating lunch at school (where you can either get a free meal or bring a sandwich) and having to buy lunch in supermarkets or from cafes everyday else you don't eat?

Roseyjane · 20/06/2024 17:21

budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 11:43

Is it not though with teachers that you volunteer or agree to go, rather than have no option? Is this not the difference?

Teachers still shouldn't be out of pocket though, even if they volunteer to go. If they didn't volunteer, then the children would miss out.

I’m not sure, plenty will happy spend 200 quid to get a cheap trip to an overseas destination. They get to experience it like the kids . Obviously getting to Switzerland and his accommodation was paid for.

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budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 17:26

I’m not sure, plenty will happy spend 200 quid to get a cheap trip to an overseas destination. They get to experience it like the kids . Obviously getting to Switzerland and his accommodation was paid for

Maybe that's true, but why should they have to? Sometimes I'm out of pocket as a cub leader, because I might buy things that the cubs need, but not get a receipt, or not claim for petrol etc (not really a thing with our group, although I appreciate some do). But I'm fortunate enough that the odd small expense doesn't really cause me a problem. But I don't think that anyone should be prevented from volunteering for something like a school trip because of the cost. £200 is quite a lot to spend for the privilege of looking after someone else's children. Some teachers may not be in the position to spend that, so that means they can't volunteer? That's not fair. And it's bloody hard work, even if it is an interesting trip. It's nothing like going away on your own, or with your own family.

Roseyjane · 20/06/2024 17:30

budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 17:26

I’m not sure, plenty will happy spend 200 quid to get a cheap trip to an overseas destination. They get to experience it like the kids . Obviously getting to Switzerland and his accommodation was paid for

Maybe that's true, but why should they have to? Sometimes I'm out of pocket as a cub leader, because I might buy things that the cubs need, but not get a receipt, or not claim for petrol etc (not really a thing with our group, although I appreciate some do). But I'm fortunate enough that the odd small expense doesn't really cause me a problem. But I don't think that anyone should be prevented from volunteering for something like a school trip because of the cost. £200 is quite a lot to spend for the privilege of looking after someone else's children. Some teachers may not be in the position to spend that, so that means they can't volunteer? That's not fair. And it's bloody hard work, even if it is an interesting trip. It's nothing like going away on your own, or with your own family.

Well no it’s not, and of it was you’d be paying your own flights and accommodation, plus he clearly had a lot paid, from breakfasts and dinners etc,

budgiegirl · 20/06/2024 17:35

Well no it’s not, and of it was you’d be paying your own flights and accommodation, plus he clearly had a lot paid, from breakfasts and dinners etc

He should have it all paid. Of course, not some of the non-essential extras, ie coffee/ice-creams etc, but all meals and activity costs should be covered.

Why should a teacher/volunteer be out of pocket? It's not a holiday, it's work. If a business person goes away for business, all essentials are usually covered. All basics for the teachers (flights, accommodation, 3 meals a day, activities) should be covered by the cost that the parents pay.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 20/06/2024 17:44

What kind of catering was provided for the children at lunchtime? Was he supposed to have that but chose not to?

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 20/06/2024 17:50

It's a bit of a grey area sometimes, depending on how the trip is organised. I took an exchange group to Germany for a week. I was hosted by a teacher (and host them in return when they are here). But over the weekend I chose to go into the city to go shopping and eat out. I didn't charge that meal to school. Nor did I charge the school when I chose to buy food rather than take a packed lunch provided by my hosts when we were out on excursions with the kids.