Stalker house buyers

[Lozgal24]

Slightly exaggerated title 😂

We are selling our house and the family buying it are buying their first house in the UK. I’m starting to feel a little irritated as on an average evening they walk past our house and look I the windows approximately 5-6 times. It’s really invasive. They don’t come right up to the windows but the street is only 1-2 m from the windows and they do a really slow walk past. It drives our dog nuts who barks repeatedly as they are close and essentially staring in the living room and squinting past the gauze blind. They sometimes wave- probably twice a night. This happens 5 ish nights a week. They are not en route to anywhere. We have another two months till completion.

They have four kids, they also walk past approx 2-3 time an eve between 7-10, separate to their parents and slow walk past. They openly stare. They are from a different culture so I’m not sure of this is the norm where they are from? It seems odd by anyones standards.

AIBU to think this in invasive? Just ask to view it again? We’ve offered but it’s getting silly now.

Would you say something and risk sale or just deal with it?

Ask the estate agent to have a word

YABU.

They're about to spend £1000s on your house, the most expensive thing they've bought in their lives, so as they live close they are no doubt making sure you aren't keeping quiet about crazy neighbours or awful street parking Wars!

You only have to read all the posts on here from people who have bought a property and discovered the neighbours are a nightmare!

Thanks for all the messages. Some have given me a giggle.

We reached new highs when their family came to stay last week and we had full blown groups of around 10 people staring in windows throughout the week. We have closed the curtains but with the heat we have windows open in the evenings for a breeze, so the curtains are ajar.

Their teenage daughter rang in the doorbell around 7pm one night whilst my youngest was having a tantrum a few weeks ago, to tell me she was the buyers daughter and hadn’t seen the house, she was with friends and I said “so nice to meet you but this isn’t a good time, please call the agents if you’d like to see the house” then I said I needed to tend to my child who was screaming about wrong cup/ wrong type of biscuit/ it being a Wednesday/ there being air etc, and I went back in the house. Not heard that she wants to view since then. I probably look like I’m the demon parent tormenting my child because I gave them the blue cup, green cup and red cup when they in fact wanted the yellow one and how did I not know they meant yellow when they said green etc.

I’ve grown accustomed to them walking past frequently but don’t like it. It’s especially wierd when you are sweating on the sofa and they are peering through the window whilst you are in shorts and vest!

They only speak to us if they see us outside and they pull their car over to speak or walk past. O do feel like they are some kind of SWOT team shouting “now now now” when we unlock the front door to go out. We don’t go out to speak to them especially, as we don’t want to encourage multiple visits.

i totally get their excited and we are too about our new house. It’s a really big deal for them, we can see that but I just want to enjoy my house before we leave in peace and quiet! The kind where you can scratch your butt whilst waiting for the kettle to boil, without worrying that someone’s peeking in and catching you! Lol

I don’t want to rain on their parade and tarnish their positivity so I’m going to suck it up but I’m keeping the curtains closed and I won’t be scratching anything if the curtains aren’t shut. 🤣

Anyway, less than two months to go till completion. I’d never be a good celebrity- hate the privacy invasion!.

It’s definitely invasive, impolite and a bit stalkerish. I would agree with previous suggestions to have the estate agent ‘have a word’. It’s a complete invasion of privacy and in a way it is ‘gentle intimidation’. If anything were to fall through on the sale - they could become unmanageable. Plus they should not be teaching their kids that it is ‘okay’ to stalk other people’s property. Appreciate the wanting to be kind to other cultures - but this is not okay anywhere.

Some people do complete on the day they exchange. And move in. In the "British" system.

they are peering through the window
if they are trespassing, going in your front yard -even if it's a meter long - then yes, you can complain to the estate agent, or your solicitor.

If they are on the public pathway, then YABU. It's your choice not to have privacy blinds or curtains, you cannot complain because people can see you on the sofa.

but I just want to enjoy my house before we leave in peace and quiet! The kind where you can scratch your butt whilst waiting for the kettle to boil, without worrying that someone’s peeking in and catching you! Lol
most of us have that privacy, again, it's called "curtains".

I'd speak to the agent,see if they can have a word with them.

They sound slightly unhinged.

Profoundly weird.

I'm in the process of buying as a first timer as well, and would never dream of doing this! I viewed the property twice, and since then, have stayed away! I don't anticipate seeing it again until I get the keys in-hand!

Perhaps mention it to your solicitor and/or estate agent? They should be able to have a quiet word about acceptable behaviour.