New Couple moved In. Council says I made a complaint.

[JanglingJack]

As above really.

We live on a street which is one row of terraced facing a road and then allotments to the front, the same terraced to the back, gardens meeting, they're overlooking a green and then primary school.

A new couple moved in a few months ago, 2 doors up (my neighbour then them). They've bought their home, everyone my side is council.

Anyway! I was out doing my hedge earlier and new lady drove up, I've not seen her before. I waved and said welcome to the street (that's what someone said to me when we were given this house after being homeless) We were trying to comminucate over next doors front garden. I couldn't hear with cars going by and do we met on the street.

She said she had a lot of complaints and letters from council with my name and door number!!
News to me!
Im still gobsmacked. I know when they first moved in they had a party with a lot of old euro rave tunes - I was loving it!

So.. I said no, no, not me, and she said your door and your name (had introduced).

Has somebody living close by, made a complaint with my name and address? I'm livid if they have!
How do I find out? I know I can call the council, but they're not going to say it was Kourtney next door using your details.

I just feel blummin awful now. I've been here 8 years and still get treated like I'm new (and stupid).

I'm not even sure what I'm after. Just upset.

I think it's cruel to call her a big fat liar though. That wasn't necessary @INeedAnotherName

I was trying to tell you she is telling big lies because the Council would not do that ever (other posters are also saying the same) which makes her a liar. I can't see what's cruel about that. But if you want to believe a liar over everyone else then that's up to you.

Could you have misunderstood and she meant she had letters addressed to you and your address? Could the mail be from the council addressed to you and been posted incorrectly?

What would you send her a card for? She’s tried to dump you in it.

The majority seem to think she's lying. But isn't more likely she has recieved a letter as she says. But it's one of the agro old neighbours who've faked it? Just get your council logo and type a letter. Two birds with one stone: complain to new person; stitch up that other newby we don't like.

This thought had occurred to me, too.

Why are you so desperate for her to like you? She sounds like a pain in the arse with her finger pointing and 'euro tunes'. I'd give her a wide berth, def wouldn't give her a card.

Either she's lying to flush out the complainant or another shit stirrer said it was you. I'd keep a wide berth and ask to see the letter with your apparently name on it, say you are going to speak to the council about this innaccuratd information and breach.

Sorry, I'm just catching up. Had a couple of days with my Mum. Some replies are making me chuckle, some are making me wtf?! 🤣 But still with a chuckle.

This one first.

I get it now - big fat liar is a saying, not a personal attack on her.
She's on the larger side, so I took that literally.
I take back the cruel comment!

Thinking back, after a couple of days not thinking about it at all... I have no intention of sending a card. I thought it would be nice to do, to make them feel welcome to what is a cliquey street.
I've been here 8 years and still haven't heard then of it from neighbours - whether it be 50 or 15, I'm still a newcomer.
Wankers. Sorry I've just had a right barney with my neighbour!!

Not the elder ones, they're still on landlines. One of them has probably got council on speed dial, so that wouldn't surprise me.

What is the barney about

Honestly! She sounds like a right weirdo. OP your first response should have been to ask to see the letters as you want to take note of them to make a complaint to the council. Would love to see the shock on her face.

I'm not desperate for her to like me at all!
If you read up, I said I don't want to be her friend, that she's my eldest sons age.
She seemed friendly even with her accusations, I'm happy that she's trying to flush someone out.
I'm also content with the fact that my name wasn't on anything.
She said it's their first home, so I thought it would be nice to pop a card round.
I haven't decided yet - veering towards the no. But if I did it certainly wouldn't because I want to be friends with her.

I'll give you a clue without the old drip feed
I don't have any friends
I don't have people in my house
I can be non empathetic or in this case, overly so.
I'm a single parent of a 27 year old and a 16 year old
I have never been able to share a house with anybody, nor would I want to

Yup, I'm autistic!

So no, a friend 20 odd years younger than me sounds like a nightmare.

I was just thinking a kind gesture.

Is that okay with you?

A right weirdo haha.

Okay.

I'm sure she's not. She might a serial killer for all I care.

My shits have all been given, I have no more to give.

Unless someone annoys me, I shall be leaving this thread.

Thank you for the replies from people working with council etc with the reassurance so that I can now just put this behind me.

Just in response to your above, don’t send her a card OP! She truly doesn’t deserve it. She accused you of making complaints about her to the council, you are not on card giving terms and it would be the wrong look for you to send a card as a ‘kind gesture‘ after that conversation, she will spin it as you apologising and then believe that you did complain. I’m being honest saying that she does not sound nice (I’m telling you this as you said you can be overly empathetic). You do not need to be on good terms with her or interact with her.

Okay thank you, yes that does make sense to me.

She's 2 doors up, there's no need for us to converse and if she pop round thinking she was my friend, I'd be shutting the curtains and hiding!!!

Cool, thanks for that, genuinely.

Might have missed it as I can't see if you did, but did you tell her your name first and then she said afterwards the complaints were in your name? The way the original post reads is like she told you this before you even told her your name? Anyway, most likely another neighbour complained but didn't have the guts to give their own name so gave yours instead.

Oh they would. Don't be sucked in by all the data protection stuff. They told me who a complainant was when someone made a malicious complaint about me a few years ago. I already knew who it was and they confirmed it.

I didn't think about that.

If someone did, then they did. It's sometimes like a playground trying to be accepted. I've had enough of that.
I'm going to go and strim my garden, and then I'm going to make potato salad from the potatoes and onions that I have grown.
I didn't grow the mayonnaise and I'm not faffing trying to make it. This isn't the cookery board 🤣

Marvellous.

I don't care anymore, it wasn't me (Shaggy?) and I want some sunshine.

@JanglingJack do you understand the difference between wanting someone to like you and wanting someone to be your friend?

From your wording of what she’s said, I assumed she meant she’s received letters addressed to you. As in someone has made a complaint about you but the postman has given her your mail. But if there’s no reason anyone would complain about you then the whole thing is weird - surely she knows the council don’t give out names and addresses of complainers. I think if you were friendly, told her you liked the music and didn’t complain that’s the best you can do