Daughter wants to buzz her hair

[Charlotteshin]

My daughter keeps asking to let me buzz her hair. She wants to follow the celebrities that have done it recently and thinks it’s edgy. AIBU go say no?

Of all the thing she would want to look edgy at least it is one that grows back! You can tell her you have some reservations, but need to let her decide for herself.

I remember cutting my hair from waist length to a short style back in the 80s when I was 18.

Cried and didn't go outside for 3 days 😂, not even to college!

Well she is old enough to choose her own hair style but it’s a big switch!

Also she needs if she would suit it. A long neck, slim face high cheeks.

How long is long? Could she donate it to the Little Princess Trust?

I'm not sure why you even have a say in the matter if she is 18, it's completely her choice.

@Charlotteshin I never did it, I purposefully had our hairdresser do it so that if she hates it we had a 'middle man' for her to be cross with - she never was. She started wearing her hair in a pixie when she was 6, the number 3 all over was between year 5-6 I didn't love that as she did just look like a boy and I could see skin through it which was a bit too short and I don't think it suited her but she's always had full control of her hair.

If my mum is clippering my DBro or Dad's hair and we are there DD ties up the long bit and my mum will clipper the back and sides and she's always been happy with it

of course, but she asked me to do it for her. So for one I’m not sure I want to and 2. I don’t know how to 🙈

Then let her do it (assuming she doesn't go to some batshit school which will suspend her in the middle of her A levels for shaving her head).

Nearly 18?

She can do whatever she fancies with her own hair at this stage of her life!

It’s her hair, let her do it, @Charlotteshin.

If her hair is long would she consider donating it to Locks of Love, to make wigs for people up to the age of 21 who have hair loss due to cancer treatment, alopecia, etc?

Take her to a hairdresser so it is done right.

If she wants to buzz her hair at 18, she should do it. I'd stay out of it though, particularly if you don't know what you're doing! She should either get a friend to do it, or go to a hairdresser or a barber. If she doesn't like the end result, and you've had no hand in it, you can't be held responsible...

Okay, that makes sense. She said she wants a number 2 all over. Is this too short?

Don't be silly, you can't control what a nearly 18 year old does with their own body.

You’re her mother, not a hairdresser OP. Personally I wouldn’t be having anything to do with it as undoubtedly if anything went wrong/she didn’t like it you would get the blame. Tell her that if she wants it done she has to go to a professional and pay for it herself

TBF you didn't say "my DD wants ME to buzz her hair and I don't feel confident doing it"

It sounded like you just wanted to ban her

Take her to the hairdresser/barber instead.

It's not too short if that's what she wants.

Why not book her an appointment at the hairdresser's as a treat for finishing school. The hairdresser can discuss what would be suitable for her hair type and give some good advice and she's more likely to listen to her/him than you.

My hairdresser also generally refuses to go from long to short if it's your first time as too often it's too big a transformation and people end up unhappy with it, she'll do long to short bob/pixie to get you accustomed to it and then 6 weeks later will go completely short if that's still what you want - obviously others may have a different approach.

I was also asking if AIBU not to let her but it sounds like I am being unreasonable.

my sister is a hairdresser so I might ask her to help do it for DD

@Charlotteshin I'd keep it out of the family the first time. You want to pay for that space for her to be cross with the change and be able to aim it at the hairdresser without upsetting your sister.

Her hair her choice.
Although - as it's such a huge change, I'd go via an intermediate very short hair cut first!

So an adult almost surely it's just hair and she can cut it how she wants ! If she regrets it or hates it then that's on her not you.

She's 18 and you want to say No
Get those Clippers out DD! I bet she will look great!

I have suggested to go progressively shorter until she’s happy but she refuses and is adamant on the full buzz.

I think a few celebrities have done it recently which is providing the inspiration.

I just don’t want her to be unhappy with it and it will take a while to grow back to current length.

Oh she wants you to do it ! . Just let a hairdresser do it I wouldn't cut anybodies hair.

But it really is her hair and if she regrets it let her regret it,