Hello all I place marked earlier in the thread.
yesterday I had a knock at the door and it was the LA letting me know that we have an interview under caution next Friday because dd hasn’t been in school since October which the school are fully aware of ( obviously) and the reasons which I will go into in a min. She probably wasn’t expecting me to be so pleased about this and looked a bit shocked!
i told her that maybe now we will get some help and somebody may take notice of the situation.
when LA mentioned fines/prison etc I said it would be a break for me to go to prison atm. She was really nice to be honest and I’m trying to arm
myself with as much info as possible before Friday:school will also be attending after us separately and then there will be a joint meeting between us all.
will try and keep this brief- dd is 13 and in year 8. We live in one or the most deprived boroughs in the country, especially for schools and we literally border another borough which strangely her feeder school is ( all girls and the school I went to and loved ) but dd didn’t like it and wanted mixed and she really wanted to go to the school my ds went to and did so well, he’s 21 now.
ds was diagnosed with ASD aged 8. They’re very different kids but I knew dd was also autistic long before she was diagnosed last November when she was 12. Her school noticed the signs in year 4 after a residential trip as she was a brilliant masker in school but due to Covid everything got delayed and it took a few years.
year 7 was ok. Her attendance wasn’t great at 70% as she was constantly anxious and having migraines and struggled hugely with the transition from a
tiny primary or less than 200 kids to being in a big school where year 7 had 210 kids alone. She was in set 1 of 7 and is a very bright girl.
year 8 starts and she fell apart. Couldn’t cope with anything and only did 9 days not consecutively. Diagnosis came and I emailed to multiple source at school, have yet to hear from SENCO and school putting pressure on me to de-register her.
obviously there is much more to it but I’m aware this post is already ridiculously long. Feel very unsupported and school now contacted LA.
I asked for help with an EHCP in January in a
meeting and was told they cant do that as she needs to be in school for them to assess her.
MH is terrible, she picks her skin until it bleeds, has left the house under 10 times since October and I don’t know what to do!!
apologies for such a long post.