Really need advice.
I did a Clare’s law whilst I was pregnant with my 1 year old on my ex after he was verbally abusive. I was expecting it to be fine but shockingly I was told that he was in the process of being prosecuted for digital and penile rape which he did before throwing said girl out naked and recording her. He also has assault charges against an ex partner, general assault charges and driving charges (driving with no licence, drunk driving) he also clearly has a drinking issue but thinks he doesn’t.
I googled his name after and he was in fact in our local paper for assault and driving charges. I broke up with him. He told me the driving charges were true, that the assault charges were from a night out and both were “poor choices” he told me in regards to the rape and assault on a woman, it was his ex girlfriend. He said that he went over to end things, she seduced him in to sex and then lied and told the police that he’d raped and beat her up to avoid him leaving her. I don’t know what is true and what’s not.
He moved away when we broke up, his mum started seeing our daughter and she is lovely although is very naive in regards to her son thinking he’s done no wrong. He wasn’t having contact (he didn’t want to which suited me as I didn’t want him to)
I then got a message from his mum a few weeks ago saying he had started seeing her whilst she was at his and wanted to be on the birth certificate. I told her I didn’t feel comfortable with any of that due to previous convictions and she told me that it was all lies and what he did do (driving and assault) was during stupid drunk episodes that I shouldn’t hold against him. I said I do not feel comfortable with my daughter seeing her anymore if she was allowing him contact. I advised her that they go through court or id be willing for them to see her at a supervised contact centre. I am worried about a potential incident occurring as he isn’t responsible and is potentially dangerous and I’m worried their will be social services involvement if they knew he was seeing her.
if he was a normal nice guy I’d have absolutely no issues with him seeing her unsupervised at any time he wanted. I am not bitter.
AIBU to withhold contact because of this? Would social services likely agree I am doing the correct thing or would they not care/want her to have a relationship with him? If it was taken to court would unsupervised access be granted?
Himself and his family believe I am being very bitter but I’m just trying to protect my daughter from any potential incidents and not do anything that could lead to social services involvement.
does anybody know ss viewpoint on such a situation?