My very best friend in the world is madly in love with a man from her past. For the last 3 years I have seen them on and off, and listened to her stories of how much she wants to be with him.
I have always suspected that he cared deeply for her, but he did not feel like they were ultimately right for each other. I have told her hundreds of times that this was my view on the situation. I don't think he's a bad guy at all. Just not right for her.
They sleep together periodically and she always ends up confused and sad.
I was sat in a cafe on my lunch break today and he walked in. I go there most days and have never seen him there!
He came and sat with me and proceeded to pour his heart out and tell me EXACTLY what I'd always assumed about the situation. That he loved her very much but didn't see a future due to his personal circumstances. He said he knows it's wrong to keep sleeping with her but he finds it hard to tell her no. He also said, as I suspected, that he's been completely transparent with her about this for years but she doesn't seem to listen.
He was almost in tears, asking me to help him tell her to please accept that he can't give her what she wants,
I realise that telling him to stop spending time with her, and definitely to stop sleeping with her, would be the obvious thing, but I also feel she'd hate me if she found out I'd said that to him (anyone remember the scene in SATC where Miranda tells Big not to get married..???)
I'm seeing her for dinner tomorrow night and am torn about whether to mention the whole encounter.
I'm honestly not sure she'd even listen to me, and if she did, I feel like it would break her heart.
He has messaged me since and literally begged me to help him resolve it, as it's hurting them both.
No idea what to do next.