When that person is an abusive prick?
My ex stopped having any contact with DS two years ago and had been emotionally abusing him (and arguably physically abusing him during contact time though this was never proven - I believe my DS though). DS is now 7 and thriving without him. He caused my DS a LOT of trauma though, on top of his significant disabilities.
so no contact for years but he does pay his measly bit of CMS through direct pay. However he was told back in April that the amount he pays will be increasing by £35 a month as of this month; he pays first of the month but the payment is due to me by 11th of the month.
He did not pay the increase this month. I’ve no idea if he will realise the payments have gone up, and I will not be contacting him to remind him. So I’ve informed CMS who have provided the option to do collect and pay. This will cost me 4% but the money goes straight into DSs savings anyway and I don’t need it. It means my ex will have to pay and additional 20% though - which means on top of the extra £35 a month there’s an additional £35 fee a month too.
This has made me happy. Which I know makes me petty and spiteful. But this is the definition of him LITERALLY having one job - whilst I manage various appointments, medications, tribunals and everything else on top of the daily care for my disabled child. All he had to do was stay on top of his payments and he failed at the first hurdle. As such, his payments will now increase by 40% of what he had been paying.
AIBU to take a small amount of joy from this? Because it will make an evil, abusive man who caused my DC so much trauma, miserable?