To say thank you to a compliment?

[Dimond85]

So my mum always taught me that you're meant to say thank you to a compliment which is what I've always done. I got a compliment recently from a colleague who told me I looked beautiful that day and said aww thank you. Later that night I told my friend that I'd had that compliment and how lovely it was and she told me it was weird I'd said thank you because it comes across that I agree with them. Apparently I should've said 'what, no you're beautiful!' Or self deprecated a bit.
Is this true? I've always just said thank you to compliments and never thought to self deprecate

I say thank you too. Not that I get many.

Self conscious people self deprecate. The correct answer is Thank you

Your friend is very weird. Your response was normal.

I say "thank you" too, I think that's the right response.

There is a very sweet video of when she is about 4yo where her mum complimented her and she says "Aw thank you for saying that" and another one of her on Jimmy Fallon in her 30s saying exactly the same thing. It's very sweet to see her manners stayed

You are right, your friend is wrong

Its a very British thing to downplay compliments.

I used to downplay the compliments but now i tend to say thank you and offer a compliment in return.

Is your friend Regina George 😂

Have confidence in what you know to be true

You are right

There is nothing wrong with saying thank you to that!

People that don't accept compliments and fake grovel are incredibly annoying

You beat me too it 😂

It can be the hardest thing to accept a compliment, if you have low self esteem the default reaction is to almost 'argue' it down. On the other hand though, having one's compliment poo pooed by the recipient can be so deflating!
Lets all try to accept compliments gracefully, it really is win win for all

This. Nothing more to it.

You're correct. It's not great to pay someone a compliment and have to either watch them struggle to come up with a reciprocal one, that they'd not have paid unless you started it; or worse still end up in a back and forth argument with them that their hair is nice 'oh no it isnt' 'oh yes it is' Accept gracefully as you did. I usually add something like 'you've made my day' so it doesn't seem I take it for granted.

People like your friend are incredibly tiresome. No one likes people who are too self-deprecating. Ironically the intention behind self-deprecation is to appear modest and humble, but it just makes the person look like a huge attention seeker with zero self esteem, which is not a likeable trait.

Saying "thank you" to a compliment is always the most gracious response.

That reminds me of someone at my college ball, he kept telling me how lovely my dress was, and I kept saying thank you, and he kept saying "no, no, don't say thank you, I really mean it, it is a lovely dress" - like saying thank you was implying he didn't mean it in some way. It was right at the beginning so he wasn't even drunk. We were stuck in a loop, like the bit in Waynes World where the guy keeps saying "I love you man" (but the correct answer to that one is "thank you" )

Anyway most normal people say thank you to a compliment, I think.

Unfortunately your friend is an idiot. Your response was the right one.

Thank you doesn't imply you agree with the compliment, it just demonstrates that you appreciate it.

Whereas if you self-deprecate, it can come off as false humility.

The ONLY correct response is ''Thanks, Penney's ' 😂😂😂

Being able to accept a compliment is a positive thing IMO.

Your friend sounds a little jealous!

It is polite to accept a compliment and say thank you. There's nothing worse than, say, telling someone that their hair looks lovely and them saying "oh no it doesn't, it looks terrible!". It kind of feels like your opinion isn't valid or you don't know what you're talking about.

If it happened to me I would give their guide dog a biscuit.

I always say thank you in response but usually with a self deprecating comment as well, I feel so awkward being complimented and afterwards always think shit, I should have said something nice back!

I was taught that compliments are gifts. If someone gives you a gift the correct response is to accept it with a heartfelt “thank you”. Unless the gift is in appropriate anything else is poor manners.

I get a lot of compliments on my hair which is curly and dark brown with a lot of white in it but in a way that works. People stop me in the street or in shops to tell me they love it pretty frequently (much to he amusement of my children who tell me it looks old and bedraggled). I am very lucky to have great hair though so always just say thank you when complimented. No point being self deprecating about it!