To say thank you to a compliment?

[Dimond85]

So my mum always taught me that you're meant to say thank you to a compliment which is what I've always done. I got a compliment recently from a colleague who told me I looked beautiful that day and said aww thank you. Later that night I told my friend that I'd had that compliment and how lovely it was and she told me it was weird I'd said thank you because it comes across that I agree with them. Apparently I should've said 'what, no you're beautiful!' Or self deprecated a bit.
Is this true? I've always just said thank you to compliments and never thought to self deprecate

i get a lot of compliment and my OH even more
I guess you mate had a point, OP

The thing is that I can't lie - so if someone said something nice, eg, you look good, i's "thanks.. thnk you" but i'd only say, "you too" only if the did look good - not being nasty, its just a knee jerk reaction

Is your friend Irish? 😂

I was taught the only answer to a genuine compliment is 'Thank you,' and a smile that makes them feel like they made your day.

Self-deprecation after a compliment is rude. It trashes the compliment. Complimenting the other person might come over as an insincere token gesture. But i do it, if it is genuine.

I am! I still just say thank you

Or self deprecated a bit.

Tiresome fake modesty. Own your own gorgeousness.

was just kidding- I would do the same as you but we are shockingly bad at taking compliments in Ireland.

Yeah, to be fair, that's true

No you’re meant to say

“oh god no I’m not, I’m a hideous troll and look like dog shit…. But you’re gorgeous”

like when someone compliments your outfit you have to say

“god this thing it’s from primark sale and is basically a rag, I look like a hobo”

….. obviously I’m being snarky and saying “thank you” is of course the right thing to do. They noticed something and went out of their way to “gift” the compliment, you receive it graciously and say thank you.
if you’re feeling generous you give one back too “thank you…. I love your hair it really suits you”

then everyone feels good! 😊

I feel like rescinding any compliment I give where the response is ‘oh no. I look a state and I’m so fat and this cheap old thing is from Primark 7 years ago’.

Boring!

Just say thank you, Amanda.

Just remembered this amazing Amy Schumer sketch on this topic

I'd say thank you in that situation. Actually what I usually say if someone says something about the way I look is "Thank you, that's a nice thing to say. I appreciate it." Doesn't mean I agree with them, but it means their comment was received with the intention it was given.

Saying thank you is fine but I believe the procedure is that you either offer one in return or tell them how kind they are to have given you one.

I say thank you even when I don’t believe it, mostly because it closes the matter! I don’t think I look nice but I don’t want to keep hearing that they think I do. So I say thank you to accept the compliment and move the conversation on!

I say “ Thankyou , it’s really kind of you to say “
Or some thing similar , it’s much nicer to be gracious ( than your friend , who sadly is wrong )

I always smile say thank you when complimented.

I can't bare it when people are self deprecating when you give them a compliment, it feels quite attention seeking. I also hate it when someone gives you a compliment back, it's obviously not a genuine compliment and comes across as very fake. I only compliment someone if I actually mean it, not just to be nice.

Some people are just awkward receiving compliments. (Unless it's about Penney s/Primark). They're not being ungracious (in gracious?). They're just genuinely unused to it and awkward. And don't know how to react. It's silly alright but we all have our foibles.

NOTIONS 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

Ha ha! TOTALLY! Absolute notions. I'm scarlet.

"That's very kind of you, thank you," is an appropriate response.r

Your friend wants you to do that graceless, awkward thing that is often mistaken for politeness. Stick with what your mum taught you.